http://collarncuffs.com/resources/ 2012-04-03T23:48:32+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/ http://collarncuffs.com/resources/lib/images/favicon.ico text/html 2009-11-25T02:29:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=10_commandments&rev=1259116159&do=diff 1. Be Patient...A potential top or misteress /domme will let you know if she is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into consideration the realization of your fantasies. Don't expect your top to be able to turn on like a light switch. The timing must be right for both of you. text/html 2009-12-04T11:21:33+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=a_frame&rev=1259925693&do=diff [ ] An A-frame is a item of BDSM/Femdom furniture designed to tie a submissive or slave to. It consists of a large triangular frame about 7 feet tall and 2-3 feet wide. The space inside the triangle is usually filled with a lattice work of rope or horizontal steel bars. A-frames are either secured to a wall or mounted on a sturdy base; as with other types of furniture, it is vital that the base be stable enough to prevent toppling even if the captive submissive struggles violently. text/html 2009-11-24T00:21:56+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=a_tale_to_tell&rev=1259022116&do=diff Beyond weight, width, length, and point cut, the tail's material matters most. There are a wide variety of leathers and other materials available, and each provides a different sensation. I've ranked them here in roughly increasing order of severity. (Note: This is only a general guideline, based on what you'll generally find under these names. The fact is, the weight of leather and how it is tanned has a tremendous bearing on the “feel” of the leather. Whenever possible, touch for yourself rath… text/html 2009-12-02T10:08:17+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=abuse_and_p.e&rev=1259748497&do=diff Voluntary: all partners involved in erotic power exchange activity of whatever nature should decide to do so of their own free will and choice and without any force applied. Sometimes the element of “force” may be hidden. Such can be the case if either of the parties faces (or fears to be faced with) economical or social repercussions if he or she does not go along with what the other partner(s) wants. This may be the case for example if colleagues at work enter into EPE-activities or within a m… text/html 2010-04-24T23:22:01+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=accepting_realities&rev=1272151321&do=diff it would be a cause for celebration if we were born with the l and intuitive set of sexual skills that we all pretend we have. Without stating it outright, our culture—via our parents, the media, and our peers—implies that sex and sexual skills should come naturally, with all but the most advanced techniques being somehow instinctive. You'd never expect someone to hit a perfect tennis serve without lessons and practice or to play a beautiful sonata on an instrument they've only touched a couple … text/html 2009-11-24T05:14:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=aftercare&rev=1259039650&do=diff Aftercare is the last act of the SM Femdom scene. It is the culmination, the final act, the finishing touches, the phase where the participants (usually the tops) formally give the fantasy scene a context in everyday reality. It's technical purpose is to transition both Domme and sub from the elevated states created in a scene back into normal life awareness . But as any good SM practitioner will tell you, it's much more than that. text/html 2009-11-22T10:54:02+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=anal_beads&rev=1258887242&do=diff [ ]Beads for your butt? It may sound kind of crazy, but these special beads are designed to take advantage of the pleasant sensations that can occur as your sphincter muscles open and close around a series of small round objects. When withdrawn at the peak of orgasm, you may experience an erotic thrill unlike any other. If you're already discovered the joys of anal play with your Femdom activities you owe it to yourself to give this toy a try, either with self play or with your chosen Femdom p… text/html 2009-11-22T12:59:02+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=anal_play&rev=1258894742&do=diff General overview and safety For various reasons anal play or sex - yes, there is a difference -appeals to many people who are into the many forms of erotic power exchange, and Femdom/ BDSM. Although personal motivations may vary, the need for the submissive to actively cooperate as well as the fact that many people have a mental barrier here are the most common factors for this subject's popularity. Anal play is certainly not without risks, so you should be very aware of what you are doing. Whe… text/html 2010-02-02T01:07:13+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ankle_wrap&rev=1265072833&do=diff Many thanks to TKB for allowing us to share Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle text/html 2012-03-27T23:08:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=are_we_different&rev=1332889739&do=diff It is actually amazing to see people - outsiders especially - struggle with the phenomenum of BDSM (erotic power exchange if you like). It is, however, just as amazing to see that “the community” seems to forget about the obvious, when it comes to explaining what it is we do. text/html 2009-11-22T03:10:31+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=arm_gauntlet&rev=1258859431&do=diff The Arm Gauntlet by TKB text/html 2009-11-22T03:15:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=arm_shackle&rev=1258859727&do=diff Arm Shackle with one running end by TKB text/html 2009-12-03T02:14:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ball_gag&rev=1259806443&do=diff Golf ballgag Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. Saw horse - Buildin… text/html 2009-11-24T01:22:02+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=basic_d_s_terms&rev=1259025722&do=diff help with some basic Femdom terms...(also see Dictionary of terms) Erotic power exchange or Femdom practices are full of its own special lingo. We'll try to avoid it as much as we possibly can here but there are some basics you need to know. The partner in charge is usually called dominant, Dom, Domme, top or master and sometimes the active partner. The other partner is usually either called submissive, sub, bottom or slave and sometimes the passive partner. People who like to play both ways a… text/html 2009-11-22T03:00:51+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=basic_wrap&rev=1258858851&do=diff Basic Wrap by two knotty boys text/html 2010-02-16T01:02:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bbws&rev=1266282123&do=diff [ ]Articles about body image usually focus on either shaping-up or honoring the shapes we have, even if they’re more voluptuous (for women) or heftier (for men) than the media’s ideal. However, there’s another side to the body acceptance story that some might call a darker, or even more bizarre side. It turns a cultural preoccupation with thinness and dieting completely upside down. text/html 2009-11-24T04:57:34+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bdsm&rev=1259038654&do=diff BDSM is a term which describes a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior. The major subgroupings are described in the abbreviation “BDSM” itself: Bondage (BD) Bondage & Discipline (B&D) Domination & Submission (D&S, DS, D/S) Sadism & Masochism (or Sadomasochism) (S&M, SM) Many of the specific practices in BDSM are those which, if performed in neutral or nonsexual contexts, are widely considered unpleasant, undesirable, or disadvantageous. For example, pain,physical restraint and serv… text/html 2009-11-26T03:09:54+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bdsm_break_ups&rev=1259204994&do=diff Break-ups are always hard, but when your Femdom relationship comes to an end, and turns bad it can be even harder going. The Mistress and slave dynamic comes with such a level of trust that when one side violates that, either by deception, cheating or by deciding they no longer want the relationship, it can leave the other person reeling. Often times the reaction to that initial pain will only make things worse. text/html 2009-11-29T22:50:32+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bdsm_munches&rev=1259535032&do=diff This is a work in progress..it might always be in progress! This is a listing of places, organizations, clubs, etc, all with useful information and where you can find and get involved with your local scene. Listings include both pansexual and exclusive groups. text/html 2009-12-02T11:32:40+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bdsm_rights&rev=1259753560&do=diff This site promotes the concept of “BDSM Rights” [ ] We hold the belief that people who's sexuality or relationship preferences include Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, or Sadism and Masochism (“BDSM”) deserve the same human rights as everyone else, and should not be discriminated against for pursuing BDSM with consenting adults. text/html 2010-04-21T02:15:25+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=beginners_guide_to_vibrator_use_for_men&rev=1271816125&do=diff [ ]On our studyBDSM training entertainment program it's surprising the amount of subbies who have no idea I they could use a vibrator on themselves for play. They either thought vibrators only worked on women, or they weren’t for “guys like them.” Once most of these men gave vibrators a chance, they quickly became converts. Vibrators aren’t made for a certain kind of person, vibes are for anyone interested in discovering new ways to feel sexual pleasure. Men in particular are offered a nar… text/html 2010-04-21T02:18:47+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=beginners_guide_to_vibrator_use_for_women&rev=1271816327&do=diff Few if any vibrators come with instruction manuals. On the one hand, you might think that no manual is necessary -- after all shouldn’t you know how to use a vibrator? But if you’ve never used one, how exactly are you supposed to know how? Most people do manage to stumble their way to pleasure with a vibrator, but if you’re looking for a few helpful hints here is a beginner’s guide for women on how to use a vibrator. Looking for vibrator tips for guys? Time Required: For Your First Time, a… text/html 2009-11-26T00:36:00+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=beginning_real_time&rev=1259195760&do=diff One way of finding your local scene is to google “bdsm” along with the name of the nearest big city. If that doesn't work, try “leather” along with the name of the city. Or “munch” with the city name. This should hopefully return something, depending on where in the world you are; I wouldn't count on finding anything if you live in Tehran or Saudi Arabia. You could even ask in forums if anyone knows anything about a scene in your city. Keep in mind that small towns generally don't have any bdsm … text/html 2009-11-22T12:19:49+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=benwah_balls&rev=1258892389&do=diff Here's a little background. [ ]Ben Wa balls originated in Japan and were originally called Rin No Tama. In their original form they consisted of three metal covered balls linked by a delicate chain with a silk string for retrieval. The first ball was meant to keep the other two balls in place to massage the g-spot and the vaginal opening. Women wore these balls not to bring themselves to orgasm but to enjoy a lasting teasing sensation. Modern sets work similarly, so don't expect fireworks--th… text/html 2010-02-02T00:55:04+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bondage&rev=1265072104&do=diff Why is it such fun? [ ]Why is bondage fun? Lots of reasons. For many people, the knowledge that they are helpless, that someone else can do things with their body and they can't prevent them, is a powerful turn-on. “I'm going to make you come and there's nothing you can do about it.” It's a very strong statement of trust to let someone bind you helplessly, or even non-helplessly. How erotic, to feel yourself spread open, wanton and wet, and to see your lover kneeling between your legs, ready t… text/html 2009-12-04T11:21:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bondage_chair&rev=1259925717&do=diff Bondage Chair [ ] A bondage chair is a large piece of SM equipment found in many dungeons and clubs. Designs differ widely but the principle is usually the same; a strong high backed chair with straps or other fixing points to tie the victim to the chair. Some designs have cut away seats for easier access to genitalia for CBT. The fact that the sub is bound seated makes bondage chairs suitable for long term bondage sessions lasting several hours or more as the body is not stressed in any… text/html 2010-02-19T01:39:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bondage_safety&rev=1266543577&do=diff Bondage is probably the most risky area of BDSM, but also the most popular, especially with newcomers. Accidents do happen. Many of the most experienced practitioners have had incidents. Shibari, in its original form, was designed not only to restrain, but to torture and kill. Do not underestimate the effects of even relatively simple bondage. Have fun but go slowly and don't take chances. text/html 2009-12-04T11:32:28+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bondage_wheel&rev=1259926348&do=diff [ ] A bondage wheel is one of the largest (and most expensive) pieces of SM equipment found in a Dungeon. It consists of a large vertically mounted, rotating wheel to which the victim is strapped. In this respect it is similar to a St Andrews cross, the victim can either be strapped facing the wheel (suitable for whipping) or facing out (for CBT genital torture). The difference is the bondage wheel can be rotated allowing the victim to be turned upside down. text/html 2009-12-03T02:15:40+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bone_bit_gag&rev=1259806540&do=diff Making a Bone Bit Gag Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. Saw horse … text/html 2009-11-21T12:55:38+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=breath_play&rev=1258808138&do=diff The Medical Realities of Breath Control Play Hi folks, As many of you know, the subject of breath control play pops up here from time to time, and I often participate in the resultant threads. I notice that I repeatedly tend to post the same basic information about the physiology of what's involved, and such “re-inventing the wheel” is unnecessary. I have therefore been working on a basic “position paper” of what's involved for some time, and here it is. Assuming that it's factually accurat… text/html 2009-12-03T01:31:16+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bugle_cord&rev=1259803876&do=diff Bugle Cord: by the wonderful 'two Knotty Boys' Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a s… text/html 2009-11-24T00:24:48+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=bull_whip_safety&rev=1259022288&do=diff CHOOSING A WHIP Pick the right bullwhip for your femdom play. Don't buy an 18-plait, 14-foot kangaroo whip if you want something to play with in an apartment. Don't expect people to happily jump in front of your 10-foot bullwhip so you can learn how to play with someone. text/html 2011-04-13T02:43:56+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=buyers_guide&rev=1302662636&do=diff Shopping online offers lots of benefits you won't find shopping in traditional stores. The worldwide stores of the Internet never close. -- any time, 365-days a year. Taking advantage of their low overhead, Internet vendors often offer highly discounted prices. Savings can be substantial. In addition, Internet stores now offer more safe and flexible payment methods than ever before. text/html 2009-12-04T11:22:32+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cages&rev=1259925752&do=diff [ ]Cages are some of the largest items of bondage and femdom equipment, and provide a 'space' of confinement rather than directly controlling the freedom of the limbs. Unlike enclosed spaces such as cells, sleep sacks or body bags, cages also display the captive, in their vulnerability, making them more arousing for many people, including those who would consider themselves vanilla - for example, cages are often used to contain dancing girls in nightclubs. text/html 2009-11-26T01:54:16+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cam_play&rev=1259200456&do=diff I think this topic is going to be near and dear to a lot of kinksters, myself included. I think cams are great because they let you interact with someone in a much more meaningful way than just text or pics. One snapshot does not show the depths of emotion and the struggle they go through to do as told. You do not know if your taking them to there limits or not without seeing into there eyes. You can play with a partner, see them squirm, watch them carry out your instructions, see their facial e… text/html 2009-11-26T23:41:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cams_for_couples&rev=1259278899&do=diff Every had fantasies about a threesome? If you and your partner have ever had fantasies about being part of a threesome, or being voyeurs or even exhibitionists, a BDSM Femdom webcam session may be just the thing for you. Contrary to popular belief, webcams are not only for individuals; couples can have a blast on either side of the camera. text/html 2009-12-03T02:52:46+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cane_building&rev=1259808766&do=diff Canes have a sweet, sharp bite and are one of the most intense striking toys in BDSM. But most people would be surprised how easy and inexpensive they are to make. Here's our process for making rattan canes. Although many people think canes are made out of bamboo, most BDSM folk use canes made from rattan. Bamboo can split into sharp splinters. Rattan is a reed that grows in China and Indonesia. It is relatively easy to find, because it is used to make furniture. Check your local Yellow Pages f… text/html 2009-11-24T00:26:29+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=canes&rev=1259022389&do=diff Caning is the SM technique of consensually striking someone (most commonly on the buttocks) with a cane for mutual erotic pleasure. Canes are often used in femom play. Care should be taken to observe all appropriate safety precautions. Canes have a deserved reputation as The Victorian Terror Weapon. To most submissives, they mean severe punishment; to sensation-seeking S/M bottoms, overload. If we have care and patience, however, canes can be used in a loving and sensuous way. The very stiffness… text/html 2010-02-19T01:54:33+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=capnolagnia&rev=1266544473&do=diff [ ]Smoking fetishism (capnolagnia) is a sexual fetish consisting of the fetishisation of the smoking of tobacco and marijuana. Among heterosexual men, the fetish is often associated with oral fixations and fellatio The smoking fetish appears to be rare enough that its existence went largely unnoticed until the advent of the Internet, when fetishists began to meet online, trading pictures of smoking women, short stories, and reporting sightings or simply discussing their fascination on open for… text/html 2010-02-02T01:06:41+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cats_paw&rev=1265072801&do=diff Many thanks too Tow Knotty Boys for allowing us all to able to enjoy Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle text/html 2009-11-22T01:30:13+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cbt&rev=1258853413&do=diff Ball Torture (BT) refers to a range of techniques to cause sensation, discomfort and pain in the male testicles and scrotum. Common examples are squeezing with hands, slapping and beating with hands and other objects, crushing using various vice-like devices and applying pressure with bindings, straps and weights are favorite techniques. Often found in conjunction with cock torture (CT), thus CBT. text/html 2009-11-22T00:03:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cbt_ideas&rev=1258848237&do=diff General information and safety tips for Femdom play C and B play stands for cock and ball play. Genitorture stands for genital torture . This is a subject that makes some men clutch their nuts and run in fear, and makes other men instantly erect and greedy for more. The male genitals are at once the most vulnerable and most sensitive part of the male body, so of course many tops enjoy playing with them. text/html 2009-11-20T23:00:26+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chain_braiding&rev=1258758026&do=diff Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys. Related Articles: Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys Challenge Knot - (Video Tutorial) The Challenge Knot by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-20T23:05:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=challenge_knot&rev=1258758306&do=diff Challenge Knot by TKB Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-27T02:53:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_1&rev=1259290407&do=diff In which Patrick is enslaved It was early Saturday afternoon and Patrick, my lover of two months, had just arrived in my apartment.I led him to the kitchen and we chatted while I finished putting away the dishes, then he backed me up to the counter and pressed against me as we kissed.He was horny as I had hoped, but I wanted to make doubly sure.I pulled away, opened the refrigerator, and got out a bar of Swiss dark chocolate.Positioning my behind against the counter again, I broke the end of th… text/html 2009-11-27T02:34:28+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_10&rev=1259289268&do=diff In which we continue our survey by tracing two unusual routes to female domination Denise was a gregarious and aggressive young woman who had been involved in a series of stormy associations with a succession of gregarious and aggressive young men.We met during her relationship with Tim and we became friendly enough that she freely described its difficulties to me.I suggested she might make Tim more tractable by using the techniques of female domination, and described to her, over time, my ways… text/html 2009-11-27T02:26:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_11&rev=1259288812&do=diff In which we make a microscopic study of some valuable psychological techniques In the scenarios we’ve looked at so far, we’ve repeatedly seen the use of certain psychological techniques that are so powerful as to be indispensable, but we haven’t yet examined them with the thoroughness they deserve.It’s time.We’ll look at four of these techniques, see how they were used in our little collection of familiar scenarios, and entertain ourselves with a couple of new scenarios that illustrate them fur… text/html 2009-11-27T02:22:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_12&rev=1259288532&do=diff In which we conclude our survey by looking at relationships with no history of sexual penetration Before I made any move to enslave Patrick, we fucked and, as is my custom, we did it without a condom.We were in love, not just trying to have a good time, so we wanted our first sexual communion to be as intimate as possible; each of us wanted to completely know the other and each wanted to be completely known.Fucking is perfect for that, and our age and experience made anything else seem unnatura… text/html 2009-11-27T01:53:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_13&rev=1259286817&do=diff In which we address the ugly problem of violence Bad men Male violence against women is an old American tradition that’s never died.A lot of men, even today, see it as a natural part of any relationship, and many more see it as an option to be kept open for difficult circumstances.If you’re interested in using the power of your femininity to sexually enslave a man, a violent response is a possibility you have to consider. text/html 2009-11-27T02:14:53+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_14&rev=1259288093&do=diff In which we note that marriages are different Marriages and other committed relationships are different from uncommitted ones.By definition, they’re hard to get out of.If you try to enslave your husband and fail, there’s almost no chance the attempt will end your marriage.This offers you a measure of security, but it also means that if everything possible goes wrong, you can’t easily change the history you’ve written.Unless you’re making a final heroic effort to save a marriage doomed by other … text/html 2009-11-27T02:14:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_15&rev=1259288046&do=diff In which the first of many young wives take charge When Nora joined the company in June, Ginny and I had already been working together five months.The two of us were the same age-going on twenty-five-and we had become friends in a subdued sort of way, occasionally having lunch together or taking an afternoon break in her office or mine.We would discuss company politics, the public issues of the day, and the ordinary events of our lives, but our conversation had never become intensely personal. text/html 2009-11-27T02:58:36+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_16&rev=1259290716&do=diff In which Ralph loses eighty pounds Eileen and Ralph met in a bicycle club.They fell in love and decided they’d rather not have the rest of the club along when they went riding, so they became a steady twosome.They shared week after week of fun and adventure, marveled at their compatibility, married, and set about playing house. That’s where their difficulties began-playing house.Eileen had been raised in the belief that a wife ought to feed her husband well, while Ralph had been raised to welc… text/html 2009-11-27T03:32:58+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_17&rev=1259292778&do=diff In which two jealous tyrants are taken down just one notch I met Lisa the week before I enslaved Patrick.Mike and I were a technical writing staff of two, faced with the task of turning out fourteen manuals in four months.It was more than we could handle, so Lisa was brought on as a temporary hire to lighten our load. A year younger than me, pushing forty, Lisa looked sometimes like a twenty-year-old in granny glasses and sometimes like a sweet little old lady, but somehow she never looked for… text/html 2009-11-27T03:37:24+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_18&rev=1259293044&do=diff In which we contemplate some insurmountable obstacles Not every man is a good candidate for female domination, nor is every difficulty amenable to its beneficial effects.Let’s look at some problems we can’t solve, so that we’ll know better than to try. text/html 2009-11-27T03:47:21+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_19&rev=1259293641&do=diff In which the A-Frame loses a victim I’ve studied gambling enough to know that the people of Utah have it right, give or take a quibble here and a fly speck there.The conventionally religious believe that gambling leads to damnation. Well, I’ve watched people gamble, and the only part I don’t buy is the delay.Those people were suffering the torments of hell right then and there, and most of them would carry away enough misery to last well beyond next time. I would no more gamble than drink, and… text/html 2009-11-27T02:50:40+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_2&rev=1259290240&do=diff In which the author gives an account of herself and this work There was a time when acetylsalicylic acid and penicillin were called drugs and a woman who exercised, ate a moderate and balanced diet, and avoided alcohol and tobacco was said to be looking after her health.At that time, if one had been permitted to talk about such things at all, I might have been called a dominatrix. text/html 2009-11-27T03:50:23+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_20&rev=1259293823&do=diff In which we look to the future And that’s everything!You know it all! What now? I told you my dream. I’d like female domination to become so nearly universal that no heterosexually active man can escape our civilizing influence.That can happen only through the cumulative effort of a great many women, but I don’t necessarily want you to be among them.I want you to do what’s right for you.No person should be a pawn in another’s crusade, however worthy. Even more than wanting each woman to do … text/html 2009-11-27T02:48:22+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_3&rev=1259290102&do=diff During Patrick’s fateful Saturday afternoon visit with me, I set up a situation that demonstrates a little-considered truth about the relationship between the sexes-a truth of prime importance to a woman seeking sexual power:If a man is horny to begin with, and the sexual chemistry between you is such that you naturally turn him on, and he’s physically unable to resist, you can make him have an orgasm; his will alone can’t prevent it. text/html 2009-11-27T02:47:15+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_4&rev=1259290035&do=diff In which we examine the anatomy, the physiology, and some of the psychology of male sexual response, from a practical point of view If you want to sexually enslave a man, it helps to start with a good understanding of the workings of male sexuality.In all likelihood you already have most of the knowledge you need: you’ve read other books, gathered a good deal of practical experience, and refined your skills as a lover.Still, there are a few things I feel I ought to mention-things that aren’t in … text/html 2009-11-27T02:45:48+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_5&rev=1259289948&do=diff In which the reader is invited to take an inventory of herself for the purpose of gauging how well female domination might suit her Female domination suits some women and not others. Would it suit you? Let’s ask first whether it appeals to you.We tend to do well at what arouses our enthusiasm. text/html 2009-11-27T02:43:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_6&rev=1259289819&do=diff In which we explore the advantages a man may find in being a woman’s love slave If a man doesn’t want to be your love slave, he can avoid it; and if he doesn’t want to be any woman’s love slave, he can avoid that too.In extreme cases, the costs of refusal may be prohibitive, but extreme cases are rare.I’ve sexually enslaved a fair number of men, and my friends, among them, have enslaved a large number.Almost every one of those men made a voluntary choice to remain in a relationship where he kne… text/html 2009-11-27T02:41:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_7&rev=1259289712&do=diff In which we meet a couple that eschews female domination but still makes good use of some of its techniques Francesca and Roy, one of my favorite couples, used to have a problem.Francesca had-still has-a chronic yeast infection, and fucking aggravates it. (Some of her nutritionally knowledgeable friends have advised her to go off her diet of pizza and beer, but she craves these things, and spends most of her waking hours running her pizzeria, so their advice is impractical.)She needs an average… text/html 2009-11-27T02:38:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_8&rev=1259289539&do=diff In which we consider the logistics of bondage Comfort, food, drink and drugs The main reason for tying a man up before subjecting him to sexual stimulation is to keep him from physically resisting you.This presupposes that if you make physical resistance impossible, everything will go as you like.That’s not always the case.Circumstances can inhibit a man’s sexual responses, and sometimes (three hours after his last orgasm, for example) psychological resistance is easy.If everything is conspirin… text/html 2009-11-27T02:37:20+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chapter_9&rev=1259289440&do=diff In which we survey some of the ways a man might be persuaded to accept sexual slavery in a new and uncommitted relationship Getting a man to accept sexual slavery is easier in a new and uncommitted relationship than in an established and committed one. text/html 2009-11-22T12:55:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chastity_devices&rev=1258894512&do=diff A chastity device, is a locking item of clothing designed to prevent sexual intercourse, sexual activities, and possibly masturbation. The purpose may also be to protect the wearer from rape or temptation. Devices have been created for males and females. text/html 2009-11-25T02:18:38+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=chivalry_or_weakness&rev=1259115518&do=diff What image comes to mind when you hear the word “male submissive”? When you hear Female Domination, what is the first image that comes to mind? For me, even now, the first thing that comes to mind is a weak, pathetic man down on his knees being whipped by a leather clad Dominatrix. Even though I am living a 24/7 FemDom marriage, I still have that image that comes to mind when I hear male submissive. Why do so many people think that the male submissive is weak and pathetic? Is it because that is … text/html 2010-04-27T05:12:32+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=choosing_the_right_vibrator_for_the_occasion&rev=1272345152&do=diff [ ] Choosing the right vibrator will always be primarily about personal preferences. But there are some questions you can ask yourself before you choose a vibrator that will help reduce the risk of choosing one that you’ll use once and then will forever collect dust in your sock drawer: text/html 2009-11-26T03:34:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=civility_n_incivility&rev=1259206452&do=diff One of the most grave and inexplicable problems facing our community in general is the continued presence of downright rudeness. It takes many forms: gossip, arrogance, slander, ingratitude, interpersonal cruelty, Rumor-mongering, the propensity to snub, shun or belittle, a refined Sensitivity to slight paired with strident disregard for how ones actions And words effect others. It is astonishing, and terribly sad, how poorly we Get along from the viewpoint of interpersonal relationships. Why a … text/html 2010-04-17T00:56:53+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cleaning_sex_toys&rev=1271465813&do=diff Our bondage and Femdom sex toys bring us so much enjoyment. The better we look after for them, the longer they'll give us pleasure. The following are some techniques to keep your toys in tip top condition CLEANING BONDAGE SEX TOYS, USED FOR MONOGAMOUS text/html 2011-09-18T13:02:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=clips_clamps&rev=1316350957&do=diff ..these are a few of my favorite Femdom things... Imagine being in the depth of a terrific BDSM scene with your partner. Now, imagine the laundry bag full of clothes pegs/pins. “What?” You say! Think about it, why not take common household items and use them in an erotic encounter? Those cheap metal paper clips with the little miniature handles…a handful of colorful plastic or wooden clothespins…just imagine all the erotic spots you could use a dozen or two or three of those adorable and inexpe… text/html 2011-09-18T13:03:33+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=clothes_pegs_pins&rev=1316351013&do=diff Definitions using an open clothespin diagram: hole spring | / ________________________________ \__n__0________________________/ leg __u__0________________________ /______________________________\ leg | | clamping area Wood versus plastic text/html 2009-11-22T12:15:46+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cock_rings&rev=1258892146&do=diff Many folks equate sex toys with vibrators and vibrators with women. But men enjoy all kinds of sex toys (including vibrators) and one of the staples of their toy box is the cock ring in and out of Femdom play scenes. A great toy for solo or partner play, the cock ring (also known as a penis ring) is a strip of material or a continuous 'O' ring designed to restrict the blood from flowing out of the penis, which can prolong an erection. text/html 2009-11-20T23:01:13+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=coin_v_scarrick&rev=1258758073&do=diff Two Knotty Boys Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys Challenge Knot - (Video Tutorial) The Challenge Knot by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-25T02:08:25+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=collar_meanings&rev=1259114905&do=diff [ ] In the world of Femdom and D/s lifestyles, collars can play many roles. And can carry many protocols, depending on their intent and who puts them in place. In stating this, it should be known that this is generally the way things maybe, but not always. As each person’s desires and ideas normally fit their own needs. The explanation for each type of collar is indeed my view although it may be generally shared by many. text/html 2012-03-27T23:07:05+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=common_relational_problems_in_alternative_lifestyle_relationships&rev=1332889625&do=diff Imagine. The two of you have been in a relationship for years. You are either married, living together or have been long-time companions in some other form of relationship. Suddenly, you start to develop erotic power exchange emotions and fantasies. Or your partner does. Now what? How do you introduce this to each other? What will happen to the relationship? Will there even be a relationship? How will your partner respond to this? text/html 2009-11-29T23:52:42+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=contract_sample_1&rev=1259538762&do=diff This contract is provided as a secure and binding agreement which defines in specific terms the relationship and interaction between two individuals, hereafter termed the slave and the master (both terms are intended to be independant of sex). This agreement is legal and binding. This agreement must be entered voluntarily, but cannot be broken except under the conditions stated herein, after which certain precautions shall be taken to protect those involved. (See section 7.0.0) text/html 2009-11-30T00:23:04+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=contract_sample_2&rev=1259540584&do=diff 1. I agree and accept willingly that, once I enter into the this Contract, I agree to please my Master to the best of my ability, and I understand and accept that I now exist solely for the pleasure of my Master, to be trained, disciplined and punished if and when my Master deems it necessary. text/html 2009-12-02T11:43:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=contract_sample_3&rev=1259754232&do=diff The purpose of this instrument is to: State the full mutual consent of the undersigned in regards to this relationship. Explain the responsibilities and duties of both [Master/Mistress] and slave. Define safewords and their use. Explain the use of punishment. text/html 2009-11-25T01:16:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=corsets&rev=1259111768&do=diff A corset is a garment worn to mold and shape the torso into a desired shape for aesthetic or medical purposes (either for the duration of wearing it, or with a more lasting effect). Both men and women are known to wear corsets, though women are more common wearers. text/html 2009-12-03T03:20:14+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=craft_ideas&rev=1259810414&do=diff Making your own Femdom/ BDSM toys Here are a few items you can make easily and inexpensively for yourself. Maybe you want to be able to construct some toys instead of carrying things with you when you travel, or maybe you like the idea of using things you've made on someone. Either way, here are seven quick ideas for toys you can make yourself from easy obtainable materials. Each of the materials lists tells you what you need to make one of them, but you can make as many as you want the same wa… text/html 2009-12-03T03:40:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=craft_ideas_2&rev=1259811610&do=diff I'm always working on making toys the longer your in the lifestyle the more toy ideas you see..I see them every where and with a little imagine you can turn anything into some thing perverted and fun But that said, there are all kinds of things we can do to have fun and save money (or embarrassment off shopping). The idea is look to at Adult toys that are on the market and gleam your ideas from them ..touch them, feel if at all possible ..think about what you would change or alter ..how can… text/html 2009-11-20T23:05:46+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cross_knot&rev=1258758346&do=diff Cross Knot by two knotty boys. Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2010-04-17T00:46:33+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=cyberskin&rev=1271465193&do=diff What is CyberSkin®? CyberSkin® is unquestionably the most realistic material on the market. Quickly warming to body temperature and mimicking the elasticity and softness of human flesh, CyberSkin® has the amazing look and feel of real skin. This material in its many shapes and forms is a stunning replication of the human composition. Flexible, spring-like bonds promoting a unique skin-like texture, memory recovery, resiliency and flexibility. In the physical make-up of CyberSkin®, the a… text/html 2009-11-26T01:07:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=d_s_children&rev=1259197639&do=diff If you are an SM lifestyler, or practice femdom, having children means you have given hostages to the state. How do you protect your sexual privacy and still be good parents? Often, the result of a strong union between partners is - a child. How this affects your relationship depends a lot on how you practice BDSM. The questions are many, and the answers are not easy to find. Having a child means more than a drain on your paycheck. The real investment is time and the demands placed on the part… text/html 2009-11-29T23:47:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=d_s_contracts&rev=1259538479&do=diff contracts are a controversial area of the D/s lifestyle. Some like the additional structure and surety it provides, some feel it is too cold and restrictive. In general, a contract is a binding agreement (not necessarily legally) between two consenting adults who have negotiated between themselves a list of wants or desires in their lifestyle as it pertains to BDSM. This is usually done between a Mistress and their slave and is often compared to a vanilla pre nuptial agreement. text/html 2009-11-25T03:06:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=d_s_marrage&rev=1259118379&do=diff First things first! I want to make it very clear that the way I am suggesting a male submissive introduce his wife to FemDom is strictly my opinion. I have very limited experience and all I can share is the contrast between when I was first introduced to this lifestyle by my husband and this last time. While this last time I initiated the D/s relationship, I was still originally introduced to it by my husband. I would have had no idea what Female Domination was if he hadn't come to me 10 years a… text/html 2009-11-26T00:40:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=dating_red_flags&rev=1259196019&do=diff “Red flag” is a term to describe a personal trait or behavior that is common in people who are harmful to their partners. When getting to know someone online for a Femdom relationship it is very important that you look for these red flags. When you see these red flags slow down or stop the relationship. Understand that none of these red flags alone are definitely a sign of a bad person. They only tend to be an indicator of a problem situation. The more you see these red flags, the more you are a… text/html 2009-11-26T03:07:48+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=dating_site_terms&rev=1259204868&do=diff Personal ads can get a little confusing when you are first starting out. I know I have often had a small laugh at myself trying to figure them out from time to time. This list is by no means all inclusive, but it should give you a starting point in trying to figure them out. (please note to make for interesting reading some answers are given in a light hearted manner) text/html 2009-11-25T02:37:29+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=degrees_of_sub&rev=1259116649&do=diff This was posted to collarncuffs.com and is meant as food for thought, as an insight to where you see your own submission. Could also be used to described your submission in Femdom to others The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist text/html 2009-11-21T23:54:09+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=depersonalization&rev=1258847649&do=diff Depersonalization and sensory deprivation implies an entire range of BDSM Femdom activities often referred to humiliation. Usually depersonalization means that the Domme orders submissive to perform a role which is considerably different from the submissives role in usual life. As a rule depersonalization is fulfilled as turning a person into an object for example into a foot stool or an ash-tray. A person can as well be turned into an animal, let us say into a dog or a pony. Many beginners c… text/html 2009-11-20T23:12:29+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=diamond_knot&rev=1258758749&do=diff Diamond knot by TKB Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-24T02:12:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=dictionary_of_terms&rev=1259028772&do=diff This is not a definitive list please feel free to contact CollarNcuffs with any extras you might like to add Age play A form of role play where the participants enjoy exploring the persona of a much younger (or some times older) person. Anal play Any play involving the anus and rectum area. text/html 2009-11-24T00:20:45+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=different_strokes&rev=1259022045&do=diff So, you've gone out and gotten a flogger, you know which end is the handle, and you know where it's okay to whack... you're ready for a human target, right? Wrong! At this point you're missing one vital element: control. And the only way to get that is to practice. text/html 2009-11-25T23:20:23+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=diffidence&rev=1259191223&do=diff Any Femdom (a female dominant) at the beginning of her being involved in BDSM activities does face some problems which prevent her from getting pleasure of what she is doing. Actually any dominant can have his or her own problems as people differ and have their own psychological peculiarities. However, there are some problems common for any Femdom, such as: fear of not being up to stereotypes, lack of self-confidence and lack of skill in scenario planning. text/html 2009-11-23T22:18:15+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=disabilities_toys&rev=1259014695&do=diff I would like to build this page as a on going resource, any links you feel would be of use please feel free to send them to me... collarncuffs@collarncuffs.com sites and services such as the below are sorely needed in our BDSM/Femdom community. MissBonnie text/html 2010-04-27T02:33:50+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=dominance_and_submission&rev=1272335630&do=diff Dominance and submission (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals involving the giving by one individual to another individual of dominance over them in an erotic episode or as an on going practice 24 hours a day, 7 days a week (also known as 24/7 or being in the lifestyle) Physical contact is not a necessity, and it can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email or other messaging system. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes trav… text/html 2009-11-20T23:10:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=double_coin&rev=1258758608&do=diff How to Tie Compound Double Coin Knots by TKB Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2010-02-02T00:52:36+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=dying_rope&rev=1265071956&do=diff In this video JD of TKB shows how to dye your rope to get the beautiful colored rope you see them use from time to time. text/html 2009-11-21T23:46:16+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=eating_pussy_101&rev=1258847176&do=diff A complete guide to eating pussy One of the questions I’m regularly asked by virgins interested in Femdom, is I don’t know how to eat pussy. I keep saying don’t worry she will make it clear what she likes, and dislikes, but then it dawned on me, some time in the heat of passion with my subs, while they are going down on me..I forget to say what I like due to being ‘lost in the moment’ it made me realise this silly sounding question is not as silly as it first sounded, and perhaps a short pag… text/html 2009-11-26T03:55:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=edge_play&rev=1259207710&do=diff What is edge play edge play, and How does it fit into Femdom BDSM unlike virtually any other lifestyle offers the potential to extend the experiences of the individual into new realms and areas that they have never had the opportunity to explore before. In the beginning everything is a challenge. From the action of merely speaking an honorific title such as Mistress/Master to learning the basic responses, positions and commands that you desire for them to utilize when with you. These basic fou… text/html 2009-11-22T00:57:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=electro_play&rev=1258851439&do=diff Let's start with the most basic question; why would anyone WANT to have electricity applied to their body? The answers to that question fall into two areas; psychological and physical. Electric play is often practiced in BDSM and Femdom activities. text/html 2009-11-24T22:07:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=emergency_training&rev=1259100428&do=diff A young woman is being hoisted in suspension bondage when the winch handle slips from her Master's hand and she plummets back to the floor. A man strains at the cuffs holding his hands above his head and the overhead eyebolt pulls loose; he crashes onto the floor, and the heavy chain attached to his wrist cuffs then crashes down upon him. A woman giving an intense whipping on a hot, humid day becomes nauseated, pale, and sweaty. A man quietly waiting for a lecture to begin at an SM club meeting … text/html 2009-11-28T01:20:45+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ethnic_differences&rev=1259371245&do=diff Online and off, we all try to put our best foot forward, emphasizing our good traits and downplaying the ones we consider less desirable. Different from face-to-face meetings, online we each decide what to disclose and what to keep to ourselves. Even with pics and cams, there is room to choose how to portray yourself to someone who can’t see you in real time until you’re ready to show them. text/html 2010-04-24T22:34:04+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=exercises_to_increase_her_oral_pleasure&rev=1272148444&do=diff Recently I was talking with a fellow Domme who was telling me of her newest pleasure . A submissive who whom has oral skills that have blown her away, so much so she has nicked him super mouth. So what transformed this mere mortal into an oral superman? Have you guessed yet? Of all things, Super mouth was trained as a speech therapist. As a few many know my middle child has speech problems and has been involved in speech therapy (with me) for a number of years. Of course! all the mouth exercise… text/html 2009-12-02T09:55:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=explicit_implicit&rev=1259747757&do=diff What are the qualities that make a great play partner? Ask ten people and you’ll get ten wildly diverse answers, but you’ll also find that some qualities are universally cherished. Clear communication about desires, interests and turn-offs is at the top of the hit parade, and the ability to listen – really listen – is as precious as tickets to a Pearl Jam concert. In fact, play that is safe, sensual and satisfying depends on the ability of partners to absorb information via all six of the senses… text/html 2009-11-26T23:54:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=exploring_fantasy&rev=1259279684&do=diff In the early days of a relationship, new love and fresh passion can be enough to drive a sexual relationship into the stratosphere. Over time, however, sexual routines can sap the energy of once vibrant love affairs, and couples recognize the need to expand their sexual horizons. Unfortunately, the action often stalls at the “now what?” stage. A key question hovers: How do we undertake this journey without getting lost along the way? text/html 2009-11-24T04:38:04+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fakers&rev=1259037484&do=diff Every day I am confronted by friends, acquaintances and those recommended to seek Me out with questions regarding a person (or people) that they feel may be perpetrating a scam against them. I don't mean the common E-Mail scams (such as “Viagra Cheep” or “Lose 40 pounds by Summer”) but the much more insidious scam involving the creation of one or more fake personalities. The scammer then uses the pseudo-persona's to deceive, hurt or abuse their victim or victims. text/html 2009-11-26T03:48:40+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fantasies&rev=1259207320&do=diff Sometimes people who are attracted by some aspects of SM worry that they will immediately go from enjoying spanking and light bondage to fisting and golden showers. Nothing could be further from the truth. SM is a blanket term for a huge variety of alternative ways to make love. This FAQ list has outlined some of the possibilities. No one I know enjoys _everything_ on this list; _everyone_ has their own preferences and levels of tolerance. Some like bondage but dislike pain; some like latex but … text/html 2012-02-24T11:09:28+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=features&rev=1330081768&do=diff * Personal pages, offering, you the user.. an interactive, user-submitted network of friends. Just like MissBonnie. * Personal profiles, blogs, groups, photos, music and videos, even personal image galleries. * Take advantage of our active forums, chat rooms, E cards, stories, Femdom Galleries, resource pages and friends network to meet, learn, or explore the Femdom and Fetish lifestyles and the interesting people that live them! * We have an active forum with over 3250 members, regular … text/html 2009-11-22T11:17:32+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=figging&rev=1258888652&do=diff The art of ginger root play was written a few years ago by Master Michael aka Propane7@aol.com and appeared on many a BDSM site. Although it primarily aimed at Female submission the information transfers over to male submissives very well. I think it is worth repeating here for whose that have not seen it. text/html 2009-11-26T01:04:18+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=finding_a_domme&rev=1259197458&do=diff Are you looking for a magic spell or potion a unique formula that will guarantee you a Mistress you want? Well, there isn't any . Not really... If you are looking for a lifetime partner, that one special person to share your life with, then you must start at the beginning. Just as you would in the vanilla world First you sit down and identify who you are as a person. By this I mean your viewpoints on morality, spirituality, ethics politics, race, child rearing, your taste in music, shows, food,… text/html 2011-04-29T05:57:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fire_play&rev=1304056628&do=diff Many people tend to forget the basics about fire safety when they do fireplay, probably because of the illusion of control we Doms have while we scene...I don't know about the rest of you out there, but when I am scening, I'm so into control, that I believe nothing can go wrong, 'cause I'm godlike...and nothing is farther from the truth, unfortunately. I've known about at least 2 fires that started 'cause of a fireplay scene gone wrong, and about one sub who got 3rd degree burns 'cause of a dumb… text/html 2009-11-22T11:14:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=first_anal_toy&rev=1258888484&do=diff [ ]Do you think of buying your first anal sex toy? Do not hurry and do not purchase the first anal sex toy you see. First of all you should take into account some things and answer some questions. This will help you to choose an anal sex toy which will suit you best and will make your anal play especially enjoyable. text/html 2010-04-23T07:10:43+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fist_aid&rev=1272006643&do=diff " " "“Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you and trusting them not to” Admin's signature line" " " Most who partake in Femdom (especially the emerging or optimists ) don't think twice about 'after play' or do I have all the 'medical needs' I require should an emergency arise. You more than likely can tell me how much lube is left in the bottle/tube but do you know if your cupboards medical supplies are fully stocked? Safety: is this responsibility of each person in the Femd… text/html 2009-12-03T02:09:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fist_ball_gag&rev=1259806167&do=diff Ball gag The Monkey Fist Ball Gag by TKB Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a sh… text/html 2009-11-22T02:33:05+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fixed_detached_harness&rev=1258857185&do=diff Fixed and detached Harness by TKB text/html 2009-11-25T22:20:24+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fledgling_dommes&rev=1259187624&do=diff How do you get the wisdom, trust worthy reputation experience to find the Love of your Life (or - in the meantime - someone wonderful to play with)? Anyone got good ideas for our newer list members? Some ideas picked up along the way (and by no means exhaustive) text/html 2009-11-29T21:59:09+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=flirting_online&rev=1259531949&do=diff The Art of Flirting For the Social Networker:How to Transition from Online To Real Time I hear some version of this sad story nearly every day: Online we were so good, so hot, it was easy to talk to and tease each other. I thought it would be just as good when we met, but instead it felt so awkward. We never recovered from that, and our online thing just petered out. text/html 2009-11-24T00:19:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=floggers&rev=1259021984&do=diff (This article is reprinted from the library of the Society for Human Sexuality at the University of Washington. While there have been some changes in the formatting to make the document more appealing to the eye, there have been no changes in the text.) text/html 2010-02-19T02:10:50+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=florentine_flogging&rev=1266545450&do=diff [ ] Florentine flogging is a two-handed style of flagellation used in BDSM which involves the rhythmic use of a pair of matching floggers, one in each hand of the person administering the flogging. The term Florentine originally designates the art of wielding two weapons at once, one in each hand. For instance, it can refer to fighting with one sword in each hand, or a sword and a dagger. It is a style developed by the Italians in the city of Florence, hence the name. text/html 2009-11-20T23:11:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=flower_knot&rev=1258758704&do=diff The Flower Knot by TKB Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-22T02:58:09+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=foot_bender&rev=1258858689&do=diff Foot bender by TKB text/html 2010-04-17T01:07:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=g_spot&rev=1271466477&do=diff The G-spot was named for the German physician Ernst Grafenberg who first brought attention to “an erotic zone located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra that would swell during sexual stimulation.” The G-spot is quite elusive: For quite a while, scientists believed some women didn't have G-spots. It is now accepted that all women have G-spots, but that G-spots respond to touch in different ways. The G-spot (actually the urethral sponge) is located one to two in… text/html 2009-11-22T12:43:26+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=gags&rev=1258893806&do=diff Gags are devices that are inserted into the mouth to muffle sound & increase the feeling of helplessness. Gags come in many sizes, shapes & materials. Everything from the ball gag to the penis gags to inflatable gags. Gag and muzzle play is wonderful for a variety of bondage and dungeon scenes or to spice up bedroom fun too. Gags are a very powerful instrument, when used in the correct way and for the right purpose, both from a psychological point of view (usually their main purpose) as well as… text/html 2009-11-22T01:25:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=genitorture&rev=1258853112&do=diff Cock and ball torture (CBT) or some times called genitorture is a sexual activity involving torture of the male genitals. This may involve directly painful activities, such as wax play, genital spanking, squeezing, ball busting, genital flogging, genital bondage, urethral play, electrical play, tickle torture, or even kicking. It may equally consist of the use of cock harnesses, testicle cuffs, parachutes, prolonged stimulation (teasing), metal cages, cock rings, English cages, not necessarily l… text/html 2010-04-23T07:25:54+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=golden_shower&rev=1272007554&do=diff [ ] Golden Showers (GS) (also known as Watersports (WS)) is a quite often mentioned and many questions are asked about it, esp. concerning health issues. First of all, what is it about? GS is a slang term for the practice of erotic peeing in order to enhance sexual intimacy. It is sometimes involved in D/s play as an act of humiliation also. Why do people do it? There are mainly two aspects - some consider it a “dirty” act and esp. that makes it so exciting. The second aspect is that … text/html 2010-04-22T02:37:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=gorean&rev=1271903872&do=diff In the most general use of the word, Gorean means anything characteristic of the Gor science fiction novels by John Norman. In these novels, the word “Gorean” is used to refer to the fictional counter-earth, to its inhabitants and social customs, and to the particular language which is the most widely-spoken lingua franca in the known inhabited regions of Gor (though other languages are also spoken on the planet). As applied to non-fictional individuals, the word Gorean means an adherent of the … text/html 2010-04-27T02:42:42+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=gorean_lifestyle&rev=1272336162&do=diff Much has been heard and written about the Gorean Lifestyle, but sadly, not everyone who speaks or writes about Gor has an idea of what Gor actually is. Some say that Gor is a sub sect within BDSM, while others say that Gor is just a medieval fantasy, just like the more mainstream Lord Of The Rings or Harry Potter, with the concept of women's slavery being incidental to the entire storyline. text/html 2010-04-24T02:53:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ground_rules_for_oral_sex&rev=1272077619&do=diff you WILL ALWAYS have to customize oral sex for your Mistress each person has a distinct set of preferences, and there's no getting around that but for the basics we suggest you read our eating pussy 101 article. But regardless of who your partner is, there are some base guidelines that lay the foundation for great oral sex. DROP THAT 'TUDE, DUDE text/html 2009-11-21T12:24:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=hair_removal&rev=1258806279&do=diff [ ]One of the most discussed subjects, when it comes to BDSM/Femdom, is genital shaving. Go read any popular discussion list or newsgroup - every so often the subject will pop up again. There are many different ideas and opinions on shaving. In this section we'll try to outline what can and cannot be done, and how to do it safely and manageability. text/html 2010-02-02T01:08:29+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=hair_tie&rev=1265072909&do=diff Many thank you's to Two Knotty boys :) You guys rock! Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle text/html 2011-04-12T00:41:43+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=have_vibe_will_travel&rev=1302568903&do=diff [ ] Taking your sex toys on vacation? Maybe you're planning a romantic weekend, or perhaps you're going on a long business trip. Either way, if you're flying, you'll want to make sure you pack your sex toys well to avoid embarrassing situations. Exercise Caution When choosing the perfect sex toy to bring, keep in mind the potential for it to look like something sinister. A vibrator that could be mistaken for a hand gun, for example, is not the best item to pack for an airplane tri… text/html 2009-11-22T02:47:50+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=head_cage&rev=1258858070&do=diff Face Bondage “the HeadCage” by TKB text/html 2012-03-27T23:09:35+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=help_my_spouse_is_into_kinky_sex&rev=1332889775&do=diff Below is one of the questions people ask me often. The situation is one that is not uncommon when it comes to erotic power exchange: one of the partners wants it, the other doesn't. Hopefully this question and answer will help others. Although written for a Male in charge situation, we feel this is relevant if the sexes are reversed text/html 2012-03-27T23:15:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=hidden_sex_organs_-_the_tailbone&rev=1332890110&do=diff Most mammals, when mating, show an interest in the tail bone. For example - if you have one - try patting your cat just above the tail. We humans may have lost our tail, but we still have our tail bone. And that can bring a new dimension to your sex life. text/html 2010-04-21T02:13:42+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=history_of_the_vibrator&rev=1271816022&do=diff [Dr Johns miraculous cure for all that Women in the Victorian Era : Click to Enlarge ] A condition called Female Hysteria and lazy doctors: is the short reply: Until it was finally laid to rest the mid-20th century, female hysteria was a favored diagnosis for physicians for a litany of symptoms. As you’d guess from its vernacular, female hysteria was a condition which afflicted women exclusively. Symptoms of this dread disease included anxiety, crying fits, surliness, faintness, nervous… text/html 2010-04-21T02:12:26+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_many_people_use_vibrators&rev=1271815946&do=diff There is a lot of pressure to be sexual in the “right” way, and some people feel like they should use a vibrator. The fact is that you can have an incredible sex life without vibrators or sex toys at all. That said, using vibrators is a completely healthy (and potentially pleasure inducing) way to explore your sexuality. There are as many reasons to use a vibrator as there are reasons to feel good. Here are some of the most common reasons people play with vibrators: text/html 2012-03-27T23:05:28+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_not-kinky_are_you&rev=1332889528&do=diff “Vanilla” is a term used frequently by those, into more or less alternative lifestyles, for those, who - according to them - are not. The question however is, does “vanilla” actually exist and isn't vanilla actually the new sexual minority? text/html 2012-03-27T23:14:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_to_find_real_sex_information&rev=1332890043&do=diff Do the test. Go to Google and type “masturbation” in the search box. Because you are looking for some serious and reliable information on the subject. What you get? You probably already know. At least 500.000 links to porn sites. Think that is a lot? Well, actually it is much more! text/html 2010-04-24T00:43:55+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_to_pleasure_a_womans_breast&rev=1272069835&do=diff [ ] This might seem a strange topic to post in a Femdom site but, it amazes me the amount of men that get this wrong...and even more the amount of men who wish to get there partner to be more verbal during intimacy. Being more verbal during sexual intercourse takes work on both sides. We here at CollarNcuffs are often asked “How do I get my wife interested in Femdom, she doesn't even appear to like vanilla sex” Our answer is simple work on the intimacy you have first. If the basics aren't … text/html 2009-11-25T23:50:42+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=inner_mistress&rev=1259193042&do=diff As a sex therapist specializing in kinky sex, I frequently work with couples where the woman is trying to step into a dominant role in the bedroom. Sometimes it’s because the woman is curious about the role; sometimes it’s because her partner wants to submit to her. The biggest question women ask is how to be believable. They feel that in daily life they are either equal or even second to their partners, particularly if the woman is dependent on her partner for financial support. While there is … text/html 2012-03-27T23:17:25+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=is_erotic_power_exchange_a_culture&rev=1332890245&do=diff Alternative lifestyles are frequently labeled “sub-culture.” Could it be erotic power exchange is much more than that? Occasionally the erotic power exchange (BDSM) community looks at the gay community with a certain amount of envy, as a result of the fact that the latter has achieved quite a bit when it comes to general understanding for and acceptance of different lifestyles. One of the questions, asked in this respect, is the one about being a culture yes or no. Although that as such is a … text/html 2010-04-21T02:31:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=jelly_rubber_vibrators_contain_phthalates_and_should_always_be_used_with_condoms&rev=1271817070&do=diff " " " "The phallic playthings dangle along the back wall of Lovers. Lined up on a shelf, their sparkly glitter insides shine through the thick layer of packaging, but something more sinister is also lurking in the sexy line up of jelly rubber dildos, vibrators and anal beads." text/html 2009-12-03T03:01:01+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=key_ring_chain&rev=1259809261&do=diff Recognition Symbols for Perverts A little trick to share your Femdom interests There have frequently been calls on ASB for a covert recognition symbol for perverts. The leather pride flag is an overt one, but it can require some delicate explaining if one is not “out” about kinky interests. Here's one that is pretty covert, but noticable. Originally posted to ASB 7 Jan 1997; somewhat revised here. On ASB, Iain wrote: text/html 2009-11-26T01:11:53+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=kink_and_kids&rev=1259197913&do=diff some hints and tips to make things easier when dealing with Femdom and erotic power exchange Many parents have questions about how and when to inform their children about their erotic power exchange emotions. Sometimes that may not be an easy thing to do. Here are a few handy guidelines that may help you as a parent deal with this problem. We have no intention of providing you with a ten easy steps program, since every individual situation is different. We can, however, try and help you with so… text/html 2012-03-27T23:06:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=kinky_sex_sells&rev=1332889572&do=diff Two recent newsquotes: " "From “All Headline News” - “Los Angeles, CA - Angelina Jolie's former lesbian lover says the stunning actress was very provocative and raunchy before ever settling down. She even claims the two visited dominatrix dens together, which Angelina “loved.”" text/html 2009-11-28T00:54:41+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=kitchen_kink&rev=1259369681&do=diff The internet is a treasure trove of resources for learning about sex and BDSM / Femdom in all its fascinating, fetishy, and funny permutations. New blogs and podcasts pop up almost daily, bringing displays of sexual novelty that boggle even the most adventuresome minds. Recently, I stumbled upon a couple of sites that were unusual even for a veteran web-crawler like me. There, men were taught how to make masturbation toys from supplies stocked in their own pantries or junk cupboards. text/html 2010-04-23T07:14:00+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=leather_lingerie&rev=1272006840&do=diff [ ] People are curious about leather, they want to try it but they are nervous and cautious because they feel the stigma around leather still exists and is prevalent in their network of friends and family. Erotic leather lingerie is not just for cowboys, bikers and hard-core BDSM anymore, and while leather is definitely NOT mainstream, more and more people are introducing the idea into their fantasy and love life. text/html 2009-11-22T02:24:25+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=lightning_harness&rev=1258856665&do=diff TKB text/html 2009-11-28T00:26:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=limits_negotiations&rev=1259367987&do=diff In the Femdom/BDSM world, limits refer to activities that a partner feels strongly about, and to which special attention must be paid. Before a Femdom scene * Before a Femdom scene, it is common to perform a negotiation to outline what will and will not happen during the play session. During this time, all participants outline what they desire and what they will not tolerate. This is the time to discuss limits. text/html 2009-11-20T23:02:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=looped_knots&rev=1258758123&do=diff Looped Knots by TKB Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Challenge Knot - (Video Tutorial) The Challenge Knot by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-28T01:05:01+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=love_at_first_site&rev=1259370301&do=diff Match-making has come of age. In 2001 online dating was a mere $40-million industry. By 2008, revenues are expected to exceed $600 million. While hundreds of firms are vying for a slice of that big mouth-watering pie, anticipation is flying highest among the eager online daters turning to the industry for love, not money. text/html 2009-11-22T12:00:46+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=lube&rev=1258891246&do=diff All you ever wanted to know about lube for Femdom use Discovering lube as a grown-up is like discovering what your clit or dick does as a kid. “Who,” you think, “was the brilliant mind behind this idea? And why did I not know about this sooner? Why did I memorize the quadratic equation in high school, but not hear a word about this vastly more life-improving substance?” Below you will find an introduction to this lovely stuff. text/html 2009-11-20T23:08:29+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=luck_knot&rev=1258758509&do=diff The Good Luck Knot by TKB Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2012-03-27T23:03:41+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=male_sexual_arousal_desire&rev=1332889421&do=diff You're a man. Your sexual buttons are pushed easily, as marketing experts, pornography producers as well as Hollywood moviemakers will prove daily. Almost anything - that is advertized with the man in mind - has a hidden sexual motive. Nearly any movie has hidden persuaders deliberately incorporated and pornography of course is obvious. While the objective usually is to make you buy someting - a car, a movie ticket, a soft drink or whatever - the side-effect is that you get turned on subconcious… text/html 2010-04-22T00:41:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=maledom&rev=1271896887&do=diff The world of BDSM has several roles that are played by people. Basically, BDSM is an acronym for Bondage, Dominance, Submission and Mastery. Some people consider the S and M to be acronyms for Sadism and Masochism, while some consider it to be Submission and Mastery. One important role in the realm is the Male dominant, known as the maledom. The maledom basically is a male who plays a dominant role in the relationship. Being Maledom is not a bed or roses. There are several responsibilities th… text/html 2012-03-27T23:08:17+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=media_bdsm&rev=1332889697&do=diff Media coverage is extremely important when it comes to the image the world has about any group in society. It may even be decisive. And as for any other group, this is true for the erotic power exchange world as well. Since erotic power exchange is attracting more interest in society, it is only logical the phenomena gets increased media coverage. In addition, the current trend - especially in audiovisual media - to try and cover more eroticism in general contributes extra to this trend. text/html 2009-11-24T00:25:31+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=melanoma_sm_play&rev=1259022331&do=diff Quick Summary Melanoma is an increasingly common form of life-threatening cancer, usually found on the skin, and known for its early and rapid tendency to spread to other organs. Melanoma is frequently found on the back -- a location often whipped during SM play. The back is also a location not easy for a person to examine themselves. Studies have shown that manipulation of a melanoma (and a whip stroke, spank, or other type of blow would, obviously, be a form of “manipulation”) definitely incr… text/html 2012-03-27T23:04:54+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=men_and_sexual_fantasy&rev=1332889494&do=diff There is no use in denying: If you are a man, you fantasize during sex. Not about the woman you are with or the situation you are in, but probably about another (imaginary or not) woman or another (the next or the ideal) situation. No, you won't be the first to dream about Pamela Anderson while having sex with your wife or girlfriend. Neither will you be the first to actually want entirely different things than what you are doing. And there is nothing wrong with that. Guess what, most women do … text/html 2012-03-27T23:15:38+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=men_can_have_better_sex&rev=1332890138&do=diff “Honey, it's not a race!” That is what many women will tell their partner during - and especially AFTER - they have sex. And indeed it is not a race. Yet the question is if men can help it if they feel that sex - and especially the actual intercourse - is a physical achievement. Because if you're a man, that is what it feels like. text/html 2009-12-03T02:19:47+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=mini_flogger&rev=1259806787&do=diff Making a Breast and Genital Flogger Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddl… text/html 2009-11-25T21:59:22+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=mistress_primer&rev=1259186362&do=diff TEN Basic's FOR Femdoms 1.Be Patient... * Until you enter into a relationship with a submissive, you have no more right to order him around than does anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and what you are like. Finesse and subtlety are major elements of dominance. Similarly, strength and gentleness go hand in hand. The sensitivity and awareness (or lack thereof) that you show in the real world is likely to be repeated in the playroom. text/html 2010-02-02T01:07:55+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=mod_pearls&rev=1265072875&do=diff Many thanks to TKB Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle Rope Pentagram- (Video Tutorial) Pentagram-shaped harness or adornment for shibari, club wear, wicca/Beltaine festivities or other fun. text/html 2009-11-25T03:18:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=multi-orgasmic&rev=1259119119&do=diff What does it mean to have “great sex”? Ask a thousand people, and you’ll get a thousand answers. Sex is a complex mix of the physical, the mental and the spiritual, and for each man and woman, the optimal balance is different. For some, brain stimulation- romance, mystery, love, even danger-dominates the sexual encounter; for others, the greatness is all in the technique, the sensations. Sorry, but we’re not going to focus deeply on those things. Instead, we’re going to take one step back. Our … text/html 2009-11-21T12:48:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=mummification&rev=1258807717&do=diff [ ]Basic mummification is fun 8-) easy and inexpensive, and can be a lot of fun as Femdom activity. It places the submissive/slave in a situation of powerlessness and sensory deprivation which allows him to float off, forget his problems, and offer his complete trust to the Domme. The Domminate gets enjoyment and satisfaction from his sense of total control, from the pleasure she is giving the bottom, and from activity she may initiate after the mummification is complete. Here we will outline… text/html 2010-02-15T23:45:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=myths&rev=1266277508&do=diff FACT:  BDSM is not abuse. The participants in BDSM are loving, caring, communicative, consensual adult partners that know the risks of what they do and the pleasures they can receive from doing them.  The actions used in consensual BDSM are negotiated, involve the communication of limits and boundaries that are not to be crossed and instill the use of a safeword that stops all action as soon as it is spoken. Everything is fully agreed upon by all parties involved. Abuse is a pattern of controll… text/html 2009-11-26T03:46:23+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=new_partners&rev=1259207183&do=diff SIX THINKING POINTS BEFORE PLAYING WITH SOMEONE NEW 1. ASK YOURSELF,WHO IS THIS PERSON I AM ABOUT TO PLAY WITH?…SHOULD I BE DOING THIS? Remember what your Mother and Father told you about talking to strangers when we were a kids? Now let's talk about doing Femdom with them. text/html 2009-11-25T03:30:42+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=on_being_submissive&rev=1259119842&do=diff What Doctor William A. Henkin, Ph.D had to say on submission: Sometimes men who like to be submissive in their sexual lives fear that their erotic desires undermine their masculinity. The parallel concern among women is the fear that being sexually submissive is incongruent with feminist beliefs. These popular misconceptions imply that being sexually submissive means a person has less power than someone who likes to be sexually dominant. But in fact, no one can give up power she doesn’t alread… text/html 2009-11-28T01:30:36+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=online_affairs&rev=1259371836&do=diff Are They Real? Are they wrong? late for work, Marie stops to give her husband, Hal, a quick peck on the cheek before making a dash for her car. She climbs into the driver’s seat, slams the door, and rummages in her purse for her Blackberry, hoping a message from Robert has finally come through. Nothing. Disappointed, she turns the key in the ignition and heads to the office, but throughout her commute she keeps stealing glances at her handheld. Finally, at her desk, Marie sees Robert’s name … text/html 2009-11-26T01:32:18+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=online_cyber&rev=1259199138&do=diff Meeting Cyber Dommes So you want to meet a Domme! You want to be collared either real-time or cyber collared, Or if your honest you just want a little cyber playtime =) So you want to meet a Domme in the chatroom, but you’ve gone in and you’ve got no attention, you haven’t been dragged off to cyber heaven by the Domme of your dreams. text/html 2009-11-29T21:40:30+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=online_play&rev=1259530830&do=diff We all know what it means to have sexual fantasies play out on the Technicolor screen inside our head. We know that sharing some of our erotic images can add pizzazz to a relationship, while sharing others might be like sprinkling garlic on ice cream. But fantasies aren’t confined to our inner movie theater anymore. Now that sexual imagery has spread to computer screens and PDA’s, the line between private thought and engaged action, between what constitutes a personal vision to be shared, or not… text/html 2009-11-29T04:41:50+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=online_sexuality&rev=1259469710&do=diff Every time there’s a new innovation in technology, people apply it to sexual expression. The printing press? Chaucer’s bawdy tales put English on the map. Photography? Brand-new “French” postcards made life in the Civil War bearable. Cars? That’s how lovers’ lanes started. Every such enhancement of sexuality appalls some observers, who predict a virulent outbreak of promiscuity and depravity that will destroy civilization. The video game now joins this distinguished history – both in its sexual … text/html 2009-11-24T04:23:58+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=our_emblem&rev=1259036638&do=diff [ ] The BDSM emblem has no “obvious” symbolism because it was created to be enigmatic. To the vanilla observer who would be put off by BDSM, it is merely an attractive piece of jewelry. Thus, we can wear it freely as a friendly salute, nod, and wink to other BDSMers we should happen to pass on the sidewalks and in the hallways of our daily lives. text/html 2009-11-20T23:09:11+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=overhand_knots&rev=1258758551&do=diff Over hand knot by two knotty boys Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-22T11:02:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=p_spot_milking&rev=1258887777&do=diff How can a Mistress milk a prostrate? whats this thing called Femdom milking or submissive milking? Carefully insert your finger or fingers into his anus. (wear gloves and use lube make sure he's relaxed) Move them gradually up wards and to the back, along the area of the rectum towards the front of his body. Your fingers should be moving in roughly the direction of his navel. (oh helps too if he's 'sort of' comfortable and it's warm, the warm makes their balls drop) text/html 2010-05-07T03:28:56+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=pages_under_construction&rev=1273202936&do=diff done ^^the beginer's guide to leather care~ cross links done: page finished Dominance and submission~ cross links need to be done: page finished Maledom ~ cross links need to be done: page finished sadism and masochism ~ cross links need to be done: page finished g spot ~ cross links done: page finished ^^Fist Aid ~ cross links need to be done: page finished Golden Shower~ cross links need to be done: page finished ^^How to pleasure a womans breast ~ cross links need to be done: pag… text/html 2009-11-20T23:13:07+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=panel_knot&rev=1258758787&do=diff Panel knot by the two knotty boys Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-25T00:30:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=parties_etiquette&rev=1259109052&do=diff Are you going to a BDSM party for the first time? You are not sure about the way you should behave there? Actually BDSM parties as well as many other events imply some certain etiquette rules. Being aware of these etiquette rules will help you feel free and more self confident among the experienced BDSM practitioners. Thus you will show your good manners and you will always be a desired quest at such parties. Actually following the etiquette rules does not begin at the party itself. As well it… text/html 2009-12-02T10:58:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=partner_check_list&rev=1259751524&do=diff This questionnaire should be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick “head-start” to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. For each item, you need to provide two answers: text/html 2009-12-03T03:08:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=pervertibles&rev=1259809686&do=diff Pervertible (frequently misspelt “pervertable”) is a term originally coined by David Stein to describe ordinary non-sexual objects, especially everyday household objects, that can be used sexually, particularly in Femdom or BDSM play such as spanking. Some objects become so commonly 'perverted' that manufacturers produce and market models designed for this 'luxury' market. As their products are often modified (safer, sexier, easier to handle, more painful, etc.) the objects cease to be true perv… text/html 2009-12-04T12:10:02+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=pillory&rev=1259928602&do=diff A pillory (pranger in German) is a punishment device designed to hold a submissive in a fixed place by the neck and wrists. A Mistress may choose to use pillory to keep her submissive still. It has a horizontal board mounted several feet off the ground on a wooden post or frame (the name comes from the Latin for pillar). The board is in two parts, with holes through which the victim's head and hands are placed, then the two parts of the board are closed, clamping the person in, without direct p… text/html 2010-04-17T01:34:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=plastic&rev=1271468099&do=diff [ ] Hard-shell vibrators are usually crafted from a hard plastic material. Hard-shell vibrators are ideal for on-the-spot internal or external stimulation. The vibrations of a hard-shell vibrator that is powered by two AA batteries will feel much stronger than those from a soft vibrator that utilizes the same power supply. Hard-shell vibes are easy to clean as well. Hard-shell vibrators are sometimes made of Pyrex (a type of glass), gold or aluminum. These materials can be cooled or heated for … text/html 2012-03-27T02:46:01+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=poly_bookshelf&rev=1332816361&do=diff Whats On The Book shelf The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy Often known as the poly bible, The Ethical Slut is possibly the biggest selling poly book ever. Wittily written and extensively researched by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, this new edition of a classic which has been around for over a decade is full of wise tips for new players, and is a very useful introduction to polyamory. As you have probably guessed from the title, Easton and Liszt do not shy away fro… text/html 2012-03-27T02:50:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=poly_relationships&rev=1332816603&do=diff Terms and Concepts Polyamory, from Greek (poly) and Latin (amor) root words for “many loves,” is an approach to romantic and/or sexual relationships that does not emphasize sexual or romantic fidelity to only one partner at a time (sometimes called monogamy or serial monogamy), but that does emphasize consent and communication between all involved parties. It is often shortened to “poly” within poly communities, and it should not necessarily be equated with polyandry, polygyny, or polygamy. Ma… text/html 2012-03-27T02:50:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=poly_resources&rev=1332816639&do=diff Links aimed at therapists and health-care professionals who want to learn more about polyamory are at the bottom of the list. You can find an additional on site list of polyamory books here. Polyamory Weekly Headquarters for the Polyamory Weekly Podcast, a weekly talk show on all things poly. Includes listener call-ins and interviews with many people in the poly community. Alan's List of Polyamory Events Compiled by the same person who does Polyamory in the Media below, this is an often… text/html 2012-03-27T02:47:46+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=polyamory&rev=1332816466&do=diff Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is not to be confused with polysexuality, which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes. Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as consensual, ethical, or responsible non-monogamy. The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refe… text/html 2012-03-27T02:48:21+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=polygamy&rev=1332816501&do=diff [ ] BDSM is an alternate lifestyle that has several concepts that has made is quite different from mainstream relationships. Because of these differences, BDSM is also quite controversial. One of the main controversies facing BDSM is the aspect of polygamy in a BDSM relationship. Polygamy has several ramifications for a person in their personal lives. For one, if a person is married in an alternate relationship, polygamy is illegal in some states of the US and most countries all over the wor… text/html 2010-04-24T23:02:07+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=positions_for_oral_sex&rev=1272150127&do=diff Put Some Ambition in Your Position: Postures That Will Make Her Purr Function over Form Choose your positions wisely, because you're probably be asked for repeat performances. Remember that if something sounds like it might be too strenuous for you, you're probably right. The best positions are more about precision than brute strength, though there's something to be said for being daring. text/html 2011-09-18T14:13:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=prostrate_milking&rev=1316355239&do=diff Reposted from ReginaMirus blog Per special request, for Mistress Cruella. I promised I'd do this, now I'm delivering! :-) I don't profess to be the guru of p-spot stimulation, but I'd like to think that I've been pretty successful with it, so here's what it is that I do. Key elements of a successful prostate massage: 1.He absolutely MUST BE relaxed. If he's wired, anxious about anything (like performance), or he's just fearful it's gonna hurt, then it's just not going to work. … text/html 2009-11-25T01:52:09+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=protocols_4_d_s&rev=1259113929&do=diff Protocols in Dominant/Submissive Relationships:, Mistress/slave, Domme/Sub...Power based relationships stimulate the mind and the libido. But how do we maintain that erotic charge through the scene and between scenes? Life comes with bills, the flu, dishes, and laundry, getting the car serviced, taking the trash out, going to work and so much more. Plus then add in kids if you have them and then you have less time. And everything keeps going no matter if you are in a D/s relationship. It means … text/html 2009-11-25T22:51:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=punishment&rev=1259189487&do=diff How do I punish? What should I do? What do you punish? What do I let slide and forgive? I can only answer these question for myself and comment on how I deal with punishment issues. How you choose to deal with infractions is up to yourself, and your own individual flare and style. Dominas all have different needs and different requirements from submissives…what I require from my submissives may be different to your needs. text/html 2009-12-04T11:41:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=queening_stool&rev=1259926872&do=diff [ ] A queening stool is a device which is used to facilitate the act of queening. It is a low seat which fits over the submissive face and contains an opening to allow oral-genital and/or oral-anal stimulation of the Domme whilst seated. Since the dawn of time, lovers have used their ingenuity to bring erotic pleasure into each others lives, so it's not just a Femdom toy. First illustrated in Egyptian hieroglyphs, queening stools for “face sitting or smothering” have down the ages, brought ple… text/html 2010-02-02T01:02:41+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=quick_shackle&rev=1265072561&do=diff How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle. There are a variety of ways to tie a Rope Shackle, including tying it on limb or in hand, prior to sliding it onto a limb. Both these tying techniques are valid and have usefulness. But sometimes one needs to tie a Rope Shackle quicker than the aforementioned techniques allow. During circumstances such as these, the following technique can be used. text/html 2009-11-29T04:55:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=recovering&rev=1259470559&do=diff The sexual imagination may know no limits, but the human body and psyche certainly do. Your emotional and physical sensitivity can far exceed your conceptual ability to toy with novel erotic experiences. When exploring fantasies, having a safeword is always wise. If something feels wrong, you can stop the action immediately with one well-timed syllable. But what happens when a safeword isn’t invoked quickly enough? If you’re on the receiving end of sensation (i.e. the “bottom”), what happens i… text/html 2012-03-27T23:18:30+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=resources&rev=1332890310&do=diff There are many people who would like to see the BDSM alternative lifestyle accepted in society. But just like anything else that is different, this is something that a lot of people have a hard time grasping. When it comes down to it, there are many myths surrounding the BDSM alternative lifestyle that make people want to avoid it. But with that being said, when properly educated most people will agree that the BDSM alternative lifestyle is not that bad. text/html 2009-11-22T02:52:38+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rigger_gauntlets&rev=1258858358&do=diff Rigger Gauntlets by TKB text/html 2009-11-20T23:13:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=river_knot&rev=1258758817&do=diff River Knot by two knotty boys Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-12-03T01:44:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_bit_gag&rev=1259804646&do=diff Rope bit Gag by Two Knotty Boys Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. … text/html 2009-12-03T02:07:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_blindfold&rev=1259806072&do=diff TKB's Rope Blindfold Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. Saw horse -… text/html 2009-12-03T01:49:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_collar&rev=1259804943&do=diff Rope Collar by Two Knotty Boys Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. S… text/html 2010-02-02T01:13:23+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_corset&rev=1265073203&do=diff A beautiful rope corset by the two knotty boys. Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle text/html 2009-11-22T03:06:00+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_cuffs&rev=1258859160&do=diff Rope Prisoner Cuffs by the wonderful boys of TKB text/html 2009-12-03T01:35:23+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_flogger&rev=1259804123&do=diff Rope flogger by the Two Knotty Boys Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddl… text/html 2010-02-02T01:04:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_flogging_cuffs&rev=1265072677&do=diff Two Knotty Boys - How-To Tie - Rope Flogging Cuffs 8-) Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle text/html 2009-11-22T02:06:17+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_handling&rev=1258855577&do=diff This pages has been temporally removed text/html 2009-12-03T01:59:22+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_ladder&rev=1259805562&do=diff Rope ladder by Two Knotty Boys Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. S… text/html 2009-11-22T02:55:42+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_panties&rev=1258858542&do=diff Rope Panties Rope panties byt the fab duo of Two Knotty boys text/html 2010-02-02T01:03:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_pentagram&rev=1265072617&do=diff Here's how to use a single rope to create a pentagram-shaped harness or adornment for shibari, club wear, wicca/Beltaine festivities or other fun. Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar text/html 2010-02-02T01:09:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_spreader_bar&rev=1265072948&do=diff Rope speader bar by TKB Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle Rope Pentagram- (Video Tutorial) Pentagram-shaped harness or adornment for shibari, club wear, wicca/Beltaine festivities or other fun. text/html 2009-11-20T02:55:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_storage&rev=1258685710&do=diff I like to do bondage while I play Femdom, but how do I store my rope :-/ Store rope neatly coiled, since kinks and twists can cause undue wear, and in a cool, dry place, away from direct sunlight, such as an indoor cupboard or closet. Never store it outside, or even in a garage. Fluctuations in temperature and humidity will weaken it and may cause rot. Even so-called 'water resistant' marine grade rope will eventually wear and break under moist conditions; it will just take longer to deteriorat… text/html 2010-02-02T01:05:21+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_thumb_cuffs&rev=1265072721&do=diff The following is a video showing how to tie rope thumb cuffs. As with all ties that wrap around a limb (or thumb), be careful how tight you tie it. That is, don't tie so tight that you cut off circulation. That said, enjoy the piece. (smile) Want more Ties? text/html 2009-12-03T01:41:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_web&rev=1259804472&do=diff By Two Knotty Boys Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. Saw horse - B… text/html 2009-12-03T02:11:48+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rope_whip&rev=1259806308&do=diff Rope Whip by 2kb Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. Saw horse - Bu… text/html 2009-12-03T02:35:23+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=rubber_cat_of_9&rev=1259807723&do=diff You can be like the cat that got the cream with this rubber Cat-O-Nine-Tails. The cat-o-nine tails is a type of multi-tailed whipping device that originated as an implement for severe physical punishment, notably in the British Royal Navy. To make the rubber flogger you will need... text/html 2009-11-25T02:03:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=s_m&rev=1259114590&do=diff The term Sadism passed into common usage as the sexual or social pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person. The word is derived from the name of the Marquis de Sade, a prolific French philosopher-writer of sexually violent novels and plays. The passive counterpart of sadism is masochism, the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self, often consisting of sexual fantasies or urges for being beaten, humiliated, b… text/html 2010-04-23T04:49:21+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sadism_and_masochism&rev=1271998161&do=diff This article is about aspects of BDSM and D/s Sadism is sexual pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon another person, while masochism refers to pleasure from receiving the pain. These practices are often related and are collectively known as sadomasochism as well as S&M or SM. These terms may be used clinically, in psychotherapy, to describe mental illnesses, psychopathology or counterproductive coping mechanisms. Additionally, these terms may describe consensual practices—oft… text/html 2012-03-27T23:02:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sadorexia_-_the_latest_sexual_trend_and_danger&rev=1332889357&do=diff " " "In the Internet age it first of all needs a catchy name to become popular. Well it has. “Sadorexia” is the latest trend in alternative sexuality and it may be a very dangerous one." " " The name comes from a combination of the words “sadomaschism” and “anorexia nervosa” (the eating disorder) and was first coined recently in Spanish Internet discussion groups. What is means is requiring your partner to either loose or gain weight excessively. text/html 2009-11-21T13:24:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=safe_sex_practices&rev=1258809850&do=diff Terminology Recently, and mostly within the United States, the use of the term safer sex rather than safe sex has gained greater use by health workers, with the realization the grounds that risk of transmission of sexually-transmitted infections in various sexual activities is a continuum rather than a simple dichotomy between risky and safe. However, in most other countries, including the United Kingdom and Australia, the term safe sex is still mainly used by sex educators. Because these terms… text/html 2009-11-26T03:40:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=safewords&rev=1259206806&do=diff A safeword is a codeword or series of codewords that are sometimes used in Femdom/BDSM to mean that a submissive (or 'bottom') is reaching a physical, emotional or moral boundary or for the dominant (or 'top') to stop the sceneplay. Safewords are agreed upon before playing a scene by all participants. Many organized Femdom groups have standard safewords that all members agree to use to avoid confusion at organized play events. text/html 2009-12-03T04:20:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=saw_horse&rev=1259814006&do=diff [ ]Materials: * #2 pine or pressure-treated pine lumber * (2” x 6”, 2” x 4”, 1” x 4”, 1” x 2” scrap pieces, etc.) * 3/4” plywood * Table saw * Battery-powered drill * Phillips screwdriver bit * Countersink * 2-1/2” decking screws text/html 2009-12-04T12:20:00+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sawhorse&rev=1259929200&do=diff A sawhorse is basically a beam with four legs. It is traditionally used to support a board or plank for sawing. In the context of BDSM, it has been perverted to be used either as a compact whipping bench or as a torture device in its own right. For use as a whipping bench, the victim can either bend over the beam or lie along it. Sawhorses used as whipping benches usually have the beam covered with padded leather or PVC. text/html 2009-11-26T00:54:53+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=seeking_a_prodom&rev=1259196893&do=diff We here at Collarncuffs are often asked how do I know if she’s the right Prodomme for me, how do I find a Prodomme, what will she do to me, MissBitch has graciously supplied some answers on how to make your session a smooth success. Whether you are a nervous jittery novice contemplating your first time experience, or a weekly visitor at your local house of Domination, this article will teach you, how to find the ProDomina of your dreams and how not to be Her nightmare. My conversations with nu… text/html 2009-11-20T02:22:07+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=self_bondage&rev=1258683727&do=diff “Self-bondage” may seem like a contradiction in terms - after all, if you tie yourself up, you’d better be able to un-tie yourself, meaning that you’ll have to stay in control and won’t be able to enjoy the full measure of surrender and vulnerability that bondage with a partner can offer. But there are many reasons to make that tradeoff. Most obviously, there are never enough capable and trustworthy bondage tops or switch-hitters to go around, and their geographical distribution is not exactly e… text/html 2009-11-20T02:25:01+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=self_bondage2&rev=1258683901&do=diff when you restrain yourself with the help of ropes or other devices for a certain period of time. Those who practice self-bondage have a good opportunity to practice restraining techniques and immovability for a long period. Strict versus sensual A distinction can be made between strict and sensual self-bondage. In sensual self-bondage, escape from restraints is simple and available immediately, if desired. For example, the keys might be within reach or the knots loosely tied. The chief aim i… text/html 2009-11-26T02:45:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sell_yourself&rev=1259203510&do=diff One of the most important tasks in online dating is actually one of the tasks that singles put far too little effort into - writing an online dating profile. Think about it - your online dating profile is your face, it is your announcement into the online dating world that, “Hey! I'm here, pick me!” When you want to be chosen for something, do you sit there in a hum-drum way and just kind of wait to be called on - or were you one of those kids in the back of the class squirming around and stre… text/html 2009-11-21T23:57:29+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sensual_massage&rev=1258847849&do=diff A sensual massage is a great stress reliever; removes toxins from the body; and most important is an incredible erotic experience.Because the skin is the largest organ of the body and is covered with thousands of nerve endings, the very nature of touch stimulates all of our senses. text/html 2009-11-25T23:16:03+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sex_talk&rev=1259190963&do=diff New Dommes don't be surprised to know that your partner wants to hear spicy talks during an intercourse. It is a well-known fact that particular voice can arouse even more than actual stimulation. No wonder, telephone sex is so popular. The art of talking sexy can become quite difficult to begin, if you got used to keeping silence in your bedroom. Don't refuse talking sexy if you want to take your relationship at a new intimate level! It doesn't mean though that you should stick to dirty words … text/html 2009-11-22T01:34:34+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sexual_denial&rev=1258853674&do=diff Erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial, is a sexual practice in which a person is kept in the plateau phase of sexual arousal for an extended length of time without being allowed to orgasm. This is sometimes practiced in association with BDSM, and can be thought of as a more extreme version of orgasm control, which ends in climax. The subject may either be allowed an orgasm at the end (in which case, the orgasm is generally much stronger than normal) or denied one. An alternative form… text/html 2009-11-24T23:44:01+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sexual_fetishism&rev=1259106241&do=diff Sexual fetishism is the sexual attraction to material and terrestrial objects while in reality the essence of the object is inanimate and sexless. Body parts may also be the subject of sexual fetishes (also known as partialism) in which the body part preferred by the fetishist takes a sexual precedence over the owner. Sexual fetishism may be regarded as a disorder of sexual preference, or as an enhancing element to a relationship. text/html 2009-11-27T03:06:39+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sexual_power_women&rev=1259291199&do=diff This entire e-book is free and I really appreciate author Georgeann Cross's for her generosity in making it available to us. Read the account of her adventures in the gradual process of real life domination of her partner and see if it sounds a bell for you. The insights she provides are helpful to anyone who is trying to figure out if Dominance and submission is a true part of their sexual make-up. Also helpful for anyone wanting to understand the dynamics of this kind of sexual relationship. text/html 2009-12-03T03:57:04+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=shrews_fiddle&rev=1259812624&do=diff Tools Needed: * Jigsaw * Drill * Sandpaper * PVA wood glue * Paintbrush * Hacksaw * Staple Gun Materials Required: * Small padlock * Eccentric latch * 1”x12” Planed Pine * 3/4” screws * Small can Dark Oak Stain text/html 2009-11-23T22:09:17+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=silicone_toys&rev=1259014157&do=diff Silicone. It's not exactly what you might think of as a sensual or erotic material. Silicone sex toys, however, are the new wave in personal pleasure; in fact, most purveyors of fine adult products suggest using nothing but silicone. Traditionally, toys have been made out of plastic, wood, jelly (latex), rubber and leather (not to mention the widespread but unofficial use of housewares and produce). Making silicone toys is a time-consuming endeavor, and the material itself is of a very high qual… text/html 2010-02-02T01:14:14+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=single_limb_cuff&rev=1265073254&do=diff How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle by TKB Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring Solomons bar- (Video Tutorial) How to Make a Solomon Bar Quick shackle- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie a Quick Rope Shackle text/html 2009-12-04T11:45:30+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=smoother_box&rev=1259927130&do=diff smotherbox (or smothering box) is a type of dungeon furniture similar to a queening stool. It may be used in facesitting, where a man or woman acting in a Dominant role sits upon the face of a person acting in a submissive role, to emphasize the superiority setting. This may include receiving oral sex from the submissive person. text/html 2009-11-20T23:07:38+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=snake_knot&rev=1258758458&do=diff Snake Knot by Two knotty boys Related Articles: Chain Braiding - (Video Tutorial) Chain braiding rope by Two Knotty Boys Coin V'sCarrick - (Video Tutorial) Double Coin Knot vs. Carrick Bend Looped Knots - (Video Tutorial) Looped Knots by Two Knotty Boys text/html 2009-11-29T22:06:36+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=social_media&rev=1259532396&do=diff In the distant past, in a land not very far away, new lovers would meet in clubs and bars, campuses and offices. They would share passion in dorm rooms, apartments and hotels. When they were apart, they’d spill their feelings through long handwritten pages of prose, and talk for hours over miles of telephone wire. If love went wrong, they’d murmur goodbye with the glance of a kiss or shout good riddance over the angry slam of a door. text/html 2010-02-02T01:02:12+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=solomons_bar&rev=1265072532&do=diff Also called a Cobra Stitch and a Portuguese Sinnet, the Solomon Bar is used as a military cord and pervasively by hemp necklace and bracelet weavers. Want more Ties? Tie Off a Suspension Ring- (Video Tutorial) How to Tie Off a Suspension Ring text/html 2009-11-23T23:28:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=spanking&rev=1259018899&do=diff POSITION & POSTURE One of the factors that sets spanking apart from other forms of swatting is the deliberate and sometimes ceremonial positioning of the participants. While some spankings are haphazard, I prefer spankings that include the ritual of positioning. Both the submissive and Mistress adopt positions that facilitate and enhance the spanking. These positions generally work to the advantage of the spanker and the disadvantage of the spankee. text/html 2009-12-06T12:07:49+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=spanking_bench&rev=1260101269&do=diff [ ] A piece of furniture that is specifically designed to make for it easier fro the Femdom to do the spanking. Various designs all allow for maximum access to the posterior region. Another feature can be restraints, so as to tie down the spankee in case the pain would cause him to move by reflex. text/html 2009-12-04T11:21:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=spiders_web&rev=1259925668&do=diff [ ] A spiders web is an arrangement of either rope or chain fixed to a large frame or the walls of a room in the design of a common spiders web. The web is tightened in the frame so that it can move as little as possible. The web can then be used as a frame on which to tie the submissive too by the Mistress. The web has advantages over the St Andrews cross in that the victim once secured is accessible from both front and back. It is also much easier to bind the sub in such a way that the bondag… text/html 2009-12-03T01:46:24+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=spreader_bar&rev=1259804784&do=diff Spreader bar by Two knotty boys Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddle - Building plans for a shrews fiddle. … text/html 2009-12-02T11:10:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ssc_v_s_rack&rev=1259752206&do=diff RACK Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK, also Risk-Accepted Consensual Kink) is an acronym used by some of the BDSM/Femdom community to describe themselves and their philosophies. It specifies that any activity between fully-informed consenting adults is acceptable. text/html 2009-12-04T11:23:05+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=st_andrews_cross&rev=1259925785&do=diff [ ] The St Andrews cross is one of the most common pieces of SM equipment and can be found in virtually every Femdom dungeon and club. It is simple to construct, relatively cheap, and very effective in securing someone. Crosses can be made from either metal or wood and can be free standing or fixed to a wall. All crosses will have attachment points at the extremities for wrist and ankle cuffs; the more sophisticated versions will have adjustable foot rests allowing people of different heights t… text/html 2009-11-25T22:39:46+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=starting_out_domme&rev=1259188786&do=diff Taking that first step - What brought you here…why are you here? My guess is you partner has just told you about his submissive desires and you wish to formulate some plan in your head, on how to make it work it for you and your relationship. My second guess is you are attracted to what you have seen so far but don’t have a clue on where to go next, or what to do. text/html 2009-11-25T03:02:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=starting_out_sub&rev=1259118164&do=diff When we first discover these facets about ourselves, after the initial shock, psycho analyzing ourselves, etc, we are eager to find someone to share our lives and ourselves with. As Submissives, you have an overwhelming need to belong to and/or serve someone. This is a normal need. All experience it. text/html 2009-12-06T12:14:07+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=stocks&rev=1260101647&do=diff The stocks were originally a device used for public humiliation, punishment, and torture in the middle ages. The stocks are similar to the pillory and the pranger, as both consist of large, hinged, wooden boards. The difference is that in the stocks, the boards are placed around the legs or the wrists, whereas in the pillory they are placed around the arms and neck. However, the terms can be confused and many people refer to the pillory as the stocks. text/html 2009-11-22T11:56:16+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=strap_on_harness&rev=1258890976&do=diff What the hell is a harness? What type is the best for Femdom and pegging? So your partner has said he wants you to use a harness on him? Why does he want this? But I don’t know what to do ? Or where to start ?How do I use it? How about we start at the beginning...take a breath We’ll help you, your not alone. Lets tackle your questions one by one. A strap-on dildo (also strap-on, dildo harness) is a dildo designed to be worn (usually in a harness) by one partner and used to penetrate another pa… text/html 2009-12-06T23:18:02+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=studybdsm&rev=1260141482&do=diff What is studyBDSM studyBDSM is an online cyber Adult learning environment to 'support' your learning and knowledge of Femdom BDSM topics and practices to work in conjunction with our already freely available resource section and our Community Femdom forum at CollarNcuffs text/html 2009-12-06T23:41:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=studybdsm_participants_comments&rev=1260142897&do=diff I don't get to munches or study centers and am pretty much homebound with my submissive hubby, so it does wonders for me to be able to interact with 'real' members of the Femdom community, without the internet, and the access it has given me to such great information, I probably would have never been exposed to Femdom or it's wonderful concepts. This site has truly changed my life and I love it. All made possible by learning online. Thank you MissBonnie and those at CollarNcuffs.com for all your… text/html 2009-11-25T22:45:55+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sub_husband_help&rev=1259189155&do=diff My last few posts have been geared more toward the submissive men and it is high time to talk with my fellow budding FemDom's. Get a cup of coffee (or whatever you like), pull up a chair and let's have a little talk. Since my perspective is from the female point of view I want to talk to all you Ladies like I was right there with you. I realize that no two people are exactly alike, but the more I read from other budding FemDom's, the more I am realizing the core of this lifestyle is the same. Fr… text/html 2009-11-24T22:01:25+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sub_space_drop&rev=1259100085&do=diff Ok... the sad thing is that most people do not have a good understanding of what sub drop is... not even Dominants who have been in the lifestyle for quite some time. The article I posted before this comes close in explaining why sub drop occurs, but in reality it still lacks quite a lot of the deep explanation necessary for every Dominant to know in order to take care of their submissive after a play session, as it mostly discusses what causes sub space, not necessarily the mechanics of why som… text/html 2009-11-24T22:14:51+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=sub_v_s_slave&rev=1259100891&do=diff Many ask if slaves truly exist. In the way a dictionary and history define slavery, no they do not exist in most modern countries. (Though there is some contention that slavery rings do still exist in secret) Most people in civilized countries generally agree that the legal ownership of another human being is immoral and thus make it illegal. However, in the world of BDSM, one will find that some of the people involved call themselves by many different terms; one of these is the term “slave”. Of… text/html 2011-09-11T12:06:28+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=subspace&rev=1315742788&do=diff This word we use to describe the psychological (mental) and physical state the submissive can - but does not (always) have to - reach as a result of BDSM interaction. On the Internet especially you will see a lot of stories and articles about “subspace”. Most of these unfortunately got it dead wrong. This leads to a lot of confusion. For example “subspace” and orgasm are often mixed up. text/html 2009-11-26T00:07:50+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=successful_switching&rev=1259194070&do=diff Most of us identify as a top or bottom in the BDSM scene. Its clear cut, makes it easy to find partners of the opposite role, and often becomes an integral part of our identity, even when not in the middle of a scene. But there is a group of BDSM players who make no such declaration, who enjoy playing both roles. These are the switches, an often-misunderstood group who suffer from negative stereotyping by the uninformed. In reality, the switch is just as legitimate a role as top or bottom. Explo… text/html 2009-11-22T01:52:10+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=suspension&rev=1258854730&do=diff Suspension bondage is a form of sexual bondage often used in Femdom where a bound submissive or slave is hung from one or more overhead suspension points. Suspension bondage is considered to carry a higher risk than other forms of sexual bondage. In the words of one noted practitioner: text/html 2009-11-22T01:52:45+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=suspension_rigging&rev=1258854765&do=diff Now this is not exactly a article on how to do construction for Femdom bondage, but this is more of what you should NOT do... First off, one of the most common things I see and makes me cringe every time I see it, is when I see people using things for semi or full suspension that they should not be using! text/html 2009-11-26T00:08:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=switches_bdsm&rev=1259194137&do=diff Our scene is supposed to be accepting of all kinks. There are those who enjoy “switching” all the time. However, some in our community look down on those who switch, thinking you should “make up your mind” and be either a Top or a bottom. I think this kind of attitude is wrong. Our scene is supposed to be accepting of all kinks. We should all have the opportunity to freely express who we are in this scene and if it means switching roles, so be it! text/html 2009-11-26T00:06:37+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=switching&rev=1259193997&do=diff “Can't”... or “Won't?” Probably the worst insult you could level at me is the pat and petty, “Switches? They're just doms or subs who can't make up their minds.” Can't? Can't? It's more like won't. Why should we, really? We have the best of all worlds: we get to exercise our range of talents, tastes, and perversions without conforming to any one role permanently. text/html 2009-11-24T00:27:54+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=synchronized_flogging&rev=1259022474&do=diff Florentine flogging is a two-handed style of flagellation used in BDSM which involves the rhythmic use of a pair of matching floggers, one in each hand of the person administering the flogging. The term Florentine originally designates the art of wielding two weapons at once, one in each hand. For instance, it can refer to fighting with one sword in each hand, or a sword and a dagger. It is a style developed by the Italians in the city of Florence, hence the name text/html 2009-11-22T00:29:45+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=tease_humilate&rev=1258849785&do=diff This is a list of suggested ideas and activities for Dominant Women to use on their submissive men. I've written this list because I enjoyed compiling it and I hope people will continue to send comments and additions It could be used as a starting point for couples who would like some new ideas or don’t know where to start. This list is not meant as a “how too list” but just meant to spark ideas for the newly dominant woman, as I suggest she finds her own style. text/html 2012-03-27T23:01:16+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ten_questions_and_answers_about_bdsm&rev=1332889276&do=diff 1. What is BDSM? Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) is any situation where people - of their own free will and choice - magnify the personal power elements between them and act this out for their pleasure. This may be sexual pleasure, but it does not always have to be. text/html 2012-03-27T23:01:54+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ten_questions_and_answers_about_bdsm_and_stds&rev=1332889314&do=diff Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) is the politically correct term for what used to be called “veneral disease (VD)”. These are diseases that are transmitted through or as the result of sexual activity (not just sexual intercourse). There are no BDSM specific sexually transmitted diseases but like any other sexual activity BDSM activity CAN spread STDs. text/html 2012-03-27T23:00:22+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=ten_questions_and_answers_about_fetishism&rev=1332889222&do=diff A fetish is an attribute, fabric, bodypart or situation that turns you on sexually. This can be anything and fetishes are different for different people. It can be a scent (such as perfume), hair, an attribute, clothing (high heels for example) or the sight of a man or woman on his or her knees. text/html 2010-04-24T23:35:54+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_beginer_s_guide_to_leather_care&rev=1272152154&do=diff Our bondage sex toys and clothing bring us so much joy. The better we care for them, the longer they'll give us pleasure. The following are some techniques for you to keep your toys in tip top condition. The BDSM Femdom lifestyle has several objects and accessories that make it possible for people in the lifestyle to enhance their BDSM experience. There are some accessories that BDSM consists of, like a collar, whip, and restraints. These accessories are not cheap and you might have paid a … text/html 2010-06-13T01:54:19+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_beginner_s_guide_to_bondage&rev=1276394059&do=diff For ease of viewing we recommend you download this file. To save to your hardrive click save and select your download location, or alternately open in new viewing tab text/html 2010-04-21T02:33:40+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_beginner_s_guide_to_vibrators&rev=1271817220&do=diff [ ]Vibrators do something no human body can. They move faster, more consistently, and for longer periods of time than any fingers ever could and by simply adding extra stimulation to sex play vibrators can be a wonderful addition to sex and Femdom play. As you read on about vibrators keep in mind that while they are wonderful things, But vibrators aren’t solutions to sexual problems you may be having with a partner, they are a tool and a toy. People use vibrators externally, internally, or bot… text/html 2010-04-27T05:15:26+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_beginners_guide_to_oral_sex&rev=1272345326&do=diff [ ] I don't need to argue here about the importance of great sex to the health of a romantic relationship. We've all seen TV shows and movies that portray sex and passion as uber-racy, with bodies writhing in satin sheets under perfectly dimmed lighting, as if little elves had benevolently prepped the room for a one-two-three orgasm. text/html 2009-11-25T01:15:17+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_corset&rev=1259111717&do=diff Madonna, Sarah Jessica Parker, Beyonce and a score of other celebrities in current pop culture have repeatedly brought the corset “out from under” and into the limelight over the past couple of decades. Whether a leather corset for an erotic spectacle on stage, a beaded one for the Red Carpet or lacy and casual for lunch with friends, the image harkens back, ever so subtly, to one of the first powerful ladies to don a corset, Queen Elizabeth I of England. That's not to imply of course that Queen… text/html 2010-02-20T00:49:34+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_dragonfly_sleeve&rev=1266626974&do=diff The Dragonfly Sleeve by Two Knotty Boys. Tutorial. text/html 2009-12-04T12:15:25+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_rack&rev=1259928925&do=diff [ ]The rack is a torture device. It consists of a rectangular, usually wooden, frame, with a roller at one, or both, ends. The victim's feet are manacled to one roller, and the wrists are chained to the other. Gradually, one or both rollers are gradually turned, using a handle, with a ratchet causing a stepwise increase the tension on the chains, which induces pain as the victim is slowly stretched. text/html 2010-02-02T01:10:04+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=the_star_back_harness&rev=1265073004&do=diff A work of art by Two knotty boys Want more Ties? 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The passing of any bodily fluid or material from one individual to another. text/html 2009-12-03T02:21:55+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=vamp_fingers&rev=1259806915&do=diff Vampire Fingers This is a great innovative way to make a fun little toy. Related Articles on toy making: Key ring (chain) - A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side. Pervertibles - I can't afford BDSM toys, what can I do ? Craft Ideas - some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you constructed. Craft Ideas 2 - Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) … perfect for you! Shrews fiddl… text/html 2010-04-27T02:38:27+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=vanilla_sex&rev=1272335907&do=diff Oh, poor, sweet, misbegotten vanilla sex! What have the language-manglers done to you now? In bygone days, you were one of the planet’s most prized spices, a delicacy to all—and now, look at you—you went and got yourself punked, and put out. How did vanilla become synonymous with boring? Well, the milquetoast mafia might be comfortable with it, but they can kiss my vanilla beans, any sexual activity can be good. text/html 2010-04-21T02:24:52+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=vibrator_sizes_and_sizing&rev=1271816692&do=diff There are a lot of vibrators that are made as a novelty and break easily so it is important to choose wisely, selecting from a reputable store with high quality products. The most important thing when buying a vibrator online is knowing the SIZE. Please refer to the measurements supplied by the retailer they have outlined by each of the products so that you do not get something that is too big or small. 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The possible harm in the online world is mainly emotional harm, though physical harm can happen when a submissive follows directions from one who claims to be a Dominant who is either uneducated or not a domin… text/html 2009-11-20T02:57:31+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=washing_rope&rev=1258685851&do=diff Some times with Femdom play, ropes can become sweaty and grimmy, grease builds up on them making them a challenge to work with.. your ropes can washed, and laundered with careful attention. if your in doubt cut and remove a small section of rope and pretest in you washing machine. (remember if you have whipped the ends of rope, re whip them. text/html 2010-02-19T01:45:41+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=wax_melting_temps&rev=1266543941&do=diff [ ]Pure paraffin wax melts at around 54 to 57 degrees Celsius. Adding stearine makes the wax harder and melt at a higher temperature. Adding mineral oil (baby oil) makes the wax softer and melt at a lower temperature. Soft candles in glass jars (called votive candles) usually have mineral oil in their blend and burn cooler at around 49 degrees Celsius, Pillar candles are mostly paraffin and burn warmer at around 60 degrees Celsius. A good source for votive candles is internet church supplies c… text/html 2009-11-21T12:42:55+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=wax_play&rev=1258807375&do=diff Many people have played with a bit of candle wax at one time or another in their lives. Maybe by putting a finger in the pool of wax at the top of a candle. Maybe by catching a drip of wax on their skin by accident. Maybe even by dripping a bit of wax on themselves on purpose. Well, it's the intentional wax play we're going to talk about here. So if you're interested in playing with wax on a partner, or even if you just want to play with some on yourself, we have a few bits of advice we'd like t… text/html 2012-03-27T23:07:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=what_is_erotic_power_exchange&rev=1332889664&do=diff Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and all too frequently confused with stereotypes and forms of mental illness, which is why we like to call it Erotic Power Exchange (EPE). text/html 2009-11-22T01:43:57+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=what_rope&rev=1258854237&do=diff Rope is the most versatile, most easily obtainable and cheapest toy and can be used by anyone once a few simple knots are mastered. Most hardware stores carry rope but the best selection can usually be found in specialist yacht chandlers. Types of Rope used in Femdom play text/html 2010-04-21T02:22:15+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=which_are_the_best_vibrators_-vibe_guide&rev=1271816535&do=diff I'm Picking Up Good Vibrations [ ] Vibrators are the most popular sex toy around. The pulsating hum placed against a sensitive body part such as a nipple, clitoris, penis, or even that delicate anus can be riveting! The basic vibrator offers a kind of sexual stimulation that is unlike any human touch -- and for many people a vibrator is a great addition to sex play. Did you know women can achieve orgasms up to ten times faster by using a vibrator on her most sensitive body part… the clit. It… text/html 2009-11-24T00:23:06+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=whip_breaking&rev=1259022186&do=diff As any quality leather good, a Whip usually needs to be broken in not to only to assess its merits (impact, weight, etc.), but also to gauge the responses it brings forth from the submissive. To break in a Whip, you first need a whipping post, and a subbie tied up to a post. This assumes you are an experienced whip user. Otherwise, skip the boy for now--just practice on the post! Swinging a bullwhip may require a lot of space, so be sure to have your boy take down frames and things in the pla… text/html 2009-11-24T00:24:00+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=whipping_guide&rev=1259022240&do=diff ...why is it such fun? 8-) Why is whipping fun? One way of thinking about whipping is as another way of touching someone. People who are just getting into SM frequently play with spanking; it's fun to be spanked! It's a punishment, it's a strong stimulus, it hurts very pleasurably. But if you've ever spanked anyone for a long time you know that your spanking hand wears out quickly! text/html 2009-12-06T12:43:59+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=whipping_post&rev=1260103439&do=diff [ ] A whipping post is vertical post or pole to which someone can be bound in order to secure them for punishment or some other torture. At its most basic, a whipping post is merely a vertical beam fixed top and bottom to make it immovable. Portable versions are available where the post is fixed to a large base providing stability during its use. More sophisticated versions incorporate stocks or spreader bars to secure the feet and fixing points for ropes and chains. Other variants have movable… text/html 2009-11-22T01:45:44+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=whipping_rope&rev=1258854344&do=diff Whipping is a technique for binding the ends of rope to keep the separate fibers from unraveling. Not only is whipping to maintain the appearance of the rope ends, but clean, neat whippings make the rope much easier to work with. [ ]To whip your rope, you will need a very strong, thin string or twine. Make a ‘U’ near the end of the rope, and lay it against the rope to be whipped. text/html 2010-04-21T02:14:17+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=why_use_vibrators&rev=1271816057&do=diff Vibrators often allow people to achieve orgasm rapidly and with relative ease as compared to other methods. 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