http://collarncuffs.com/resources/ 2012-04-03T23:55:08+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/ http://collarncuffs.com/resources/lib/images/favicon.ico text/html 2012-03-27T23:18:30+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=resources&rev=1332890310&do=diff There are many people who would like to see the BDSM alternative lifestyle accepted in society. But just like anything else that is different, this is something that a lot of people have a hard time grasping. When it comes down to it, there are many myths surrounding the BDSM alternative lifestyle that make people want to avoid it. But with that being said, when properly educated most people will agree that the BDSM alternative lifestyle is not that bad. text/html 2012-03-27T23:17:25+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=is_erotic_power_exchange_a_culture&rev=1332890245&do=diff Alternative lifestyles are frequently labeled “sub-culture.” Could it be erotic power exchange is much more than that? Occasionally the erotic power exchange (BDSM) community looks at the gay community with a certain amount of envy, as a result of the fact that the latter has achieved quite a bit when it comes to general understanding for and acceptance of different lifestyles. One of the questions, asked in this respect, is the one about being a culture yes or no. Although that as such is a … text/html 2012-03-27T23:15:38+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=men_can_have_better_sex&rev=1332890138&do=diff “Honey, it's not a race!” That is what many women will tell their partner during - and especially AFTER - they have sex. And indeed it is not a race. Yet the question is if men can help it if they feel that sex - and especially the actual intercourse - is a physical achievement. Because if you're a man, that is what it feels like. text/html 2012-03-27T23:15:10+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=hidden_sex_organs_-_the_tailbone&rev=1332890110&do=diff Most mammals, when mating, show an interest in the tail bone. For example - if you have one - try patting your cat just above the tail. We humans may have lost our tail, but we still have our tail bone. And that can bring a new dimension to your sex life. text/html 2012-03-27T23:14:45+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=male_sexuality:feeling_trapped&rev=1332890085&do=diff Feeling trapped It is not uncommon for men to feel trapped in their own life, especially not when it comes to either identifying or discovering new aspects in their sexuality. And getting out of the trap may not always be easy, especially not if your spouse is not open to this. Simply because getting out of the trap - which is not (although frequently identified as) the same as a mid-life crisis - may bring about some drastic shifts in your life. For both of you, actually. text/html 2012-03-27T23:14:03+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_to_find_real_sex_information&rev=1332890043&do=diff Do the test. Go to Google and type “masturbation” in the search box. Because you are looking for some serious and reliable information on the subject. What you get? You probably already know. At least 500.000 links to porn sites. Think that is a lot? Well, actually it is much more! text/html 2012-03-27T23:09:35+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=help_my_spouse_is_into_kinky_sex&rev=1332889775&do=diff Below is one of the questions people ask me often. The situation is one that is not uncommon when it comes to erotic power exchange: one of the partners wants it, the other doesn't. Hopefully this question and answer will help others. Although written for a Male in charge situation, we feel this is relevant if the sexes are reversed text/html 2012-03-27T23:08:59+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=are_we_different&rev=1332889739&do=diff It is actually amazing to see people - outsiders especially - struggle with the phenomenum of BDSM (erotic power exchange if you like). It is, however, just as amazing to see that “the community” seems to forget about the obvious, when it comes to explaining what it is we do. text/html 2012-03-27T23:08:17+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=media_bdsm&rev=1332889697&do=diff Media coverage is extremely important when it comes to the image the world has about any group in society. It may even be decisive. And as for any other group, this is true for the erotic power exchange world as well. Since erotic power exchange is attracting more interest in society, it is only logical the phenomena gets increased media coverage. In addition, the current trend - especially in audiovisual media - to try and cover more eroticism in general contributes extra to this trend. text/html 2012-03-27T23:07:44+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=what_is_erotic_power_exchange&rev=1332889664&do=diff Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and all too frequently confused with stereotypes and forms of mental illness, which is why we like to call it Erotic Power Exchange (EPE). text/html 2012-03-27T23:07:05+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=common_relational_problems_in_alternative_lifestyle_relationships&rev=1332889625&do=diff Imagine. The two of you have been in a relationship for years. You are either married, living together or have been long-time companions in some other form of relationship. Suddenly, you start to develop erotic power exchange emotions and fantasies. Or your partner does. Now what? How do you introduce this to each other? What will happen to the relationship? Will there even be a relationship? How will your partner respond to this? text/html 2012-03-27T23:06:12+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=kinky_sex_sells&rev=1332889572&do=diff Two recent newsquotes: " "From “All Headline News” - “Los Angeles, CA - Angelina Jolie's former lesbian lover says the stunning actress was very provocative and raunchy before ever settling down. She even claims the two visited dominatrix dens together, which Angelina “loved.”" text/html 2012-03-27T23:05:28+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_not-kinky_are_you&rev=1332889528&do=diff “Vanilla” is a term used frequently by those, into more or less alternative lifestyles, for those, who - according to them - are not. The question however is, does “vanilla” actually exist and isn't vanilla actually the new sexual minority? text/html 2012-03-27T23:04:54+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=men_and_sexual_fantasy&rev=1332889494&do=diff There is no use in denying: If you are a man, you fantasize during sex. Not about the woman you are with or the situation you are in, but probably about another (imaginary or not) woman or another (the next or the ideal) situation. No, you won't be the first to dream about Pamela Anderson while having sex with your wife or girlfriend. Neither will you be the first to actually want entirely different things than what you are doing. And there is nothing wrong with that. Guess what, most women do … text/html 2012-03-27T23:03:41+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=male_sexual_arousal_desire&rev=1332889421&do=diff You're a man. Your sexual buttons are pushed easily, as marketing experts, pornography producers as well as Hollywood moviemakers will prove daily. Almost anything - that is advertized with the man in mind - has a hidden sexual motive. Nearly any movie has hidden persuaders deliberately incorporated and pornography of course is obvious. While the objective usually is to make you buy someting - a car, a movie ticket, a soft drink or whatever - the side-effect is that you get turned on subconcious…