http://collarncuffs.com/resources/ 2011-11-13T04:47:26+00:00 http://collarncuffs.com/resources/ http://collarncuffs.com/resources/lib/images/favicon.ico text/html 2011-11-12T04:09:18+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=resources&rev=1321070958&do=diff There are many people who would like to see the BDSM alternative lifestyle accepted in society. But just like anything else that is different, this is something that a lot of people have a hard time grasping. When it comes down to it, there are many myths surrounding the BDSM alternative lifestyle that make people want to avoid it. But with that being said, when properly educated most people will agree that the BDSM alternative lifestyle is not that bad. text/html 2011-09-18T14:13:59+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=prostrate_milking&rev=1316355239&do=diff Reposted from ReginaMirus blog Per special request, for Mistress Cruella. I promised I'd do this, now I'm delivering! :-) I don't profess to be the guru of p-spot stimulation, but I'd like to think that I've been pretty successful with it, so here's what it is that I do. Key elements of a successful prostate massage: 1.He absolutely MUST BE relaxed. If he's wired, anxious about anything (like performance), or he's just fearful it's gonna hurt, then it's just not going to work. … text/html 2011-09-18T13:03:33+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=clothes_pegs_pins&rev=1316351013&do=diff Definitions using an open clothespin diagram: hole spring | / ________________________________ \__n__0________________________/ leg __u__0________________________ /______________________________\ leg | | clamping area Wood versus plastic text/html 2011-09-18T13:02:37+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=clips_clamps&rev=1316350957&do=diff ..these are a few of my favorite Femdom things... Imagine being in the depth of a terrific BDSM scene with your partner. Now, imagine the laundry bag full of clothes pegs/pins. “What?” You say! Think about it, why not take common household items and use them in an erotic encounter? Those cheap metal paper clips with the little miniature handles…a handful of colorful plastic or wooden clothespins…just imagine all the erotic spots you could use a dozen or two or three of those adorable and inexpe… text/html 2011-09-11T12:06:28+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=subspace&rev=1315742788&do=diff This word we use to describe the psychological (mental) and physical state the submissive can - but does not (always) have to - reach as a result of BDSM interaction. On the Internet especially you will see a lot of stories and articles about “subspace”. Most of these unfortunately got it dead wrong. This leads to a lot of confusion. For example “subspace” and orgasm are often mixed up. text/html 2011-04-29T05:57:08+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=fire_play&rev=1304056628&do=diff Many people tend to forget the basics about fire safety when they do fireplay, probably because of the illusion of control we Doms have while we scene...I don't know about the rest of you out there, but when I am scening, I'm so into control, that I believe nothing can go wrong, 'cause I'm godlike...and nothing is farther from the truth, unfortunately. I've known about at least 2 fires that started 'cause of a fireplay scene gone wrong, and about one sub who got 3rd degree burns 'cause of a dumb… text/html 2011-04-13T02:43:56+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=buyers_guide&rev=1302662636&do=diff Shopping online offers lots of benefits you won't find shopping in traditional stores. The worldwide stores of the Internet never close. -- any time, 365-days a year. Taking advantage of their low overhead, Internet vendors often offer highly discounted prices. Savings can be substantial. In addition, Internet stores now offer more safe and flexible payment methods than ever before. text/html 2011-04-12T00:41:43+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=have_vibe_will_travel&rev=1302568903&do=diff [ ] Taking your sex toys on vacation? Maybe you're planning a romantic weekend, or perhaps you're going on a long business trip. Either way, if you're flying, you'll want to make sure you pack your sex toys well to avoid embarrassing situations. Exercise Caution When choosing the perfect sex toy to bring, keep in mind the potential for it to look like something sinister. A vibrator that could be mistaken for a hand gun, for example, is not the best item to pack for an airplane tri… text/html 2011-02-20T04:54:54+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=help_my_spouse_is_into_kinky_sex&rev=1298177694&do=diff under construction..unfinished article Below is one of the questions people ask me often. The situation is one that is not uncommon when it comes to erotic power exchange: one of the partners wants it, the other doesn't. Hopefully this question and answer will help others. text/html 2011-02-20T04:54:41+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=are_we_different&rev=1298177681&do=diff under construction..unfinished article It is actually amazing to see people - outsiders especially - struggle with the phenomenum of BDSM (erotic power exchange if you like). It is, however, just as amazing to see that “the community” seems to forget about the obvious, when it comes to explaining what it is we do. text/html 2011-02-20T04:54:17+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=media_bdsm&rev=1298177657&do=diff under construction..unfinished article Media coverage is extremely important when it comes to the image the world has about any group in society. It may even be decisive. And as for any other group, this is true for the erotic power exchange world as well. Since erotic power exchange is attracting more interest in society, it is only logical the phenomena gets increased media coverage. In addition, the current trend - especially in audiovisual media - to try and cover more eroticism in genera… text/html 2011-02-20T04:54:02+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=what_is_erotic_power_exchange&rev=1298177642&do=diff under construction..unfinished article Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and all too frequently confused with stereotypes and forms of mental illness, which is why we like to call it Erot… text/html 2011-02-20T04:53:47+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=common_relational_problems_in_alternative_lifestyle_relationships&rev=1298177627&do=diff under construction..unfinished article Imagine. The two of you have been in a relationship for years. You are either married, living together or have been long-time companions in some other form of relationship. Suddenly, you start to develop erotic power exchange emotions and fantasies. Or your partner does. Now what? How do you introduce this to each other? What will happen to the relationship? Will there even be a relationship? How will your partner respond to this? text/html 2011-02-20T04:53:14+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=kinky_sex_sells&rev=1298177594&do=diff under construction..unfinished article Two recent newsquotes: " "From “All Headline News” - “Los Angeles, CA - Angelina Jolie's former lesbian lover says the stunning actress was very provocative and raunchy before ever settling down. She even claims the two visited dominatrix dens together, which Angelina “loved.”" text/html 2011-02-20T04:53:03+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=how_not-kinky_are_you&rev=1298177583&do=diff under construction..unfinished article “Vanilla” is a term used frequently by those, into more or less alternative lifestyles, for those, who - according to them - are not. The question however is, does “vanilla” actually exist and isn't vanilla actually the new sexual minority? text/html 2011-02-20T04:52:54+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=men_can_have_better_sex&rev=1298177574&do=diff under construction..unfinished article “Honey, it's not a race!” That is what many women will tell their partner during - and especially AFTER - they have sex. And indeed it is not a race. Yet the question is if men can help it if they feel that sex - and especially the actual intercourse - is a physical achievement. Because if you're a man, that is what it feels like. text/html 2011-02-20T04:52:21+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=men_and_sexual_fantasy&rev=1298177541&do=diff under construction..unfinished article There is no use in denying: If you are a man, you fantasize during sex. Not about the woman you are with or the situation you are in, but probably about another (imaginary or not) woman or another (the next or the ideal) situation. text/html 2011-02-20T04:52:04+00:00 Collar N Cuffs Administrator http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=hidden_sex_organs_-_the_tailbone&rev=1298177524&do=diff under construction..unfinished article Most mammals, when mating, show an interest in the tail bone. For example - if you have one - try patting your cat just above the tail. We humans may have lost our tail, but we still have our tail bone. And that can bring a new dimension to your sex life.