There are many people who would like to see the BDSM alternative lifestyle accepted in society. But just like anything else that is different, this is something that a lot of people have a hard time grasping. When it comes down to it, there are many myths surrounding the BDSM alternative lifestyle that make people want to avoid it. But with that being said, when properly educated most people will agree that the BDSM alternative lifestyle is not that bad.
First and foremost, it is important to know that a BDSM alternative lifestyle is something that a person voluntarily takes on. If they are interested in living like this it should be up to them. If society could somehow see past the negative stereotypes that are associated with BDSM alternative lifestyle it would be much easier to achieve a higher level of acceptance.
While most people think that a BDSM alternative lifestyle is nothing more than physical abuse, nothing could be further from the truth. The fact of the matter is that abuse is not common with a BDSM alternative lifestyle. This is only the case in extraordinary situations. And remember, abuse is common in other lifestyles as well such as living in a bad marriage.
It is difficult to say if the BDSM alternative lifestyle will ever be accepted in society. Some people are fine with this as of now, but of course, there are many others who feel that it is not a good idea. The only way that society will ever become comfortable with the BDSM alternative lifestyle is if the myths are put to rest. Hopefully as more and more information is made available, society as a whole will begin to catch on.
We here at CollarNcuffs.com hope to lay some of these myths to rest with freely available resources, guides and information meant as a tool to educate people and to further acceptance of society.
Bondage, Ropes, Restraints, ( How too's & Techniques, guides, advice.)
Bondage I need some starting points for bondage.
Bondage safety Playing it safe. what are dangers.
Rope Storage How to store your rope for longer life and ease of use.
What type of rope what type of rope should I use ?
Washing rope My ropes all dirty can I wash it ? what do I use?
Whipping rope How can I stop my rope from coming unravelled on the ends ?
self bondage If you tie yourself up, you'd better be able to untie yourself.
self bondage2 I want to tie myself up, what now?
suspension What is it? Do I need special equipment, can I just put up a hook?
Suspension rigging How do i do it? What do I need?
How too's & Techniques, and Guides.( How too's & Techniques, guides, advice.)
Anal play A guide to making anal play less daunting and less stressful for all concerned
cbt what's the thrill ? what's the dangers ?
Hair removal Hate hair no excuses now. Here is a way for everyone!
Wax play wax play without burning down the house.
Wax melting temps Burn the wax not the sub how to get it right first time every time.
Mummification How too and what to watch out for
Breath play A starting point.
capnolagnia Smoking fetish ideas for scenes
safe sex practices Safe sex practice
unsafe sex practices Unsafe Femdom practices
Eating Pussy 101 How to get it right every time
depersonalization Depersonalization, long name, easy to do
Sensual massage How to give a great massage.
CBT Cock and ball torture ideas, suggestions and hints.
P spot Milking Locating and Milking the male P spot
tease,Humilate, Want your boy begging for more? Some ideas and suggestions to build on.
Edge play What is edge play, how do I do it?
Electro play The basics, hints, tips, scene ideas
fire play Make fire not burns
Sex Toys and Equipment uses (a selection of "How too's", articles, and reviews)
Anal beads 101 ok, I have anal beads, what now
first anal toy I want to buy my first toy, but what ?
Harness Happiness How to use and find the perfect Harness/strapon.
lube 101 what lube for what occasion?
cockrings 101 do i need a Cock ring, how do they work, should I watch for warnings
benwah balls 101 How do you use these benwah thingies?
Cleaning sex toys Looking after your toys and safety
Gags safety and ideas on gag use.
Clothes pegs/pins A simple guide to uses
Clips clamps how long? what kind? where to use?
silicone toys what materials are better for toys
Disabilities&toys Ideas, hints, tips, resources for disabilities.
Spanking, Whips, Floggers, Impact play(a selection of 'how too's, articles, and reviews)
Floggers How to use a flogger and get it right.
Different strokes Different strokes, for different folks.
A tale to tell Flogger designs and materials
whip breaking Whip care & breaking in a new whip.
Spanking Spanking know how.
Whipping guide A general guide to whip play.
Bull whip safety A general guide.
Melanoma &SM play know the dangers.
Canes How to use a cane the right way
General resources, Articles and Reviews..
Collar meanings Collars mean different things to different people...make sure you know what it means to you!
Buyers guide Buyer beware, a guide to making Adult purchases on line
Resources A good list of resource material (ladies Miss Bonnie has heaps more send an Email)
Basic D/s terms Just what the name implies, the basic terms of Femdom.
Links A collection of Femdom links to other sites and reference materials or sites of interest.
Dictionary of terms Talk like the lifestylers all the terms you need to know.
Our emblem Want others to know your kinky here's how! (works for MissB)
On line Resources You finally want to learn about what you've been fantasizing about for years, Ms160 has the answers.
Published Resources Don't what to read, or where to find the answers, Ms160 has the solution you may be after.
toy box solutions I want a toy box where do I start? Ms160 has a list ;)
fakers spotting fakes and players online
Chivalry or weakness Submissive traits, chivalry or weakness?
Fantasies We all have fantasies.so what is normal?
BDSM A term which describes a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior.
Gorean A short brief page on its origin.
sexual power Women A complete E-book with 20 chapters. In which the reader is invited to take an inventory of herself for the
purpose of gauging how well female domination might suit her.
Aftercare What to do after your scene/play ends ?
10 commandments Dommes keep your subbie happy.
10 commandments subs if you can do this your Lady will be pleased.
Top hints and tricks Need new ideas or just a little help.
Mistress primer Want to be the best ?
switching Don't box me in !!
successful switching can it be done?
Switches&BDSM So whats this switching thing?
fledgling Dommes I think I'm a Domme, how can I find my way?
subspace What is it?
sub space drop Understand what it is.
degrees of sub Food for thought, where do you see yourself
Emergency training Emergencies how will you respond
sub V's slave differences between sub and slave
starting out Domme You're domme so what now ?
starting out sub you're submissive, so what now?
Sexual fetishism the sexual attraction to material and terrestrial objects
Relationship and Dating Ideas, hints,tips,articles for R/T&online
Dating red flags meet someone and want to move it to real time, what to watch out for
Beginning real time Where do I start?Going to your first munch, what to wear, what to do.
Warning signs Is it right I'm treated this way?
D/s Marrage How do I introduce my vanilla wife to D/s
Seeking a ProDom Advice from a ProDomina on how to find your perfect match.
sub husband help So you've just found out your husband is submissive, where do you go from here
Finding a Domme Do you need to find Mrs. Right and not just Miss Rightnow try some of these ideas
fakers spotting fakes and players online
D/s & Children How can I do this with children?
kink and kids What do I tell my children?
Online Cyber How to find an online cyber Domme.
Cam play cam play pros and cons, hints and tips
Sell Yourself How To Write An Attractive Online Dating Profile
Dating site terms a starting point in trying to figure them out
BDSM break ups break ups can become messy, femdom relations are no exceptions
Contracts,Negotiations, Rights
D/s Contracts What are they? and how do they work?
Sample 1 An example of a simple contract.
sample 2 A more complicated example of a contract
Sample 3 An example of a temporary contract.
BDSM Right Know your rights.
Safewords Do you know your safe word ?
SSC v's RACK Safe, sane and consensual V's Risk-Aware Consensual Kink
Limits & negotiations Both Dominants and submissives can express limits. What are you partners ?
Partner check list The list a great place to start to get to know your partner or open up communication channel
Abuse and P.E Abuse and erotic power exchange, know the dangers
Dungeon & Playroom Furniture
A frame Bondage Chair Cages spiders web Bondage wheel Queening stool
Smoother box St Andrews cross Whipping post Pillroy the Rack Sawhorse
Spanking bench Stocks Yokes &Fiddles
Pervertibles & Craft ideas, Building Plans and Resources
Key ring (chain) A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side.
pervertibles I can't afford toys, what can I do ?
Craft Ideas some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you construct
Craft Ideas2 Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) .. perfect for you!
Shrews fiddle Building plans
saw horse Building plans
Canes Building instructions
Rubber cat of 9 How to make a rubber cat of nine tails (NEW APRIL08)
First and foremost, it is important to know that a BDSM alternative lifestyle is something that a person voluntarily takes on. If they are interested in living like this it should be up to them. If society could somehow see past the negative stereotypes that are associated with BDSM alternative lifestyle it would be much easier to achieve a higher level of acceptance.
While most people think that a BDSM alternative lifestyle is nothing more than physical abuse, nothing could be further from the truth. The fact of the matter is that abuse is not common with a BDSM alternative lifestyle. This is only the case in extraordinary situations. And remember, abuse is common in other lifestyles as well such as living in a bad marriage.
It is difficult to say if the BDSM alternative lifestyle will ever be accepted in society. Some people are fine with this as of now, but of course, there are many others who feel that it is not a good idea. The only way that society will ever become comfortable with the BDSM alternative lifestyle is if the myths are put to rest. Hopefully as more and more information is made available, society as a whole will begin to catch on.
We here at CollarNcuffs.com hope to lay some of these myths to rest with freely available resources, guides and information meant as a tool to educate people and to further acceptance of society.
Bondage, Ropes, Restraints, ( How too's & Techniques, guides, advice.)
Bondage I need some starting points for bondage.
Bondage safety Playing it safe. what are dangers.
Rope Storage How to store your rope for longer life and ease of use.
What type of rope what type of rope should I use ?
Washing rope My ropes all dirty can I wash it ? what do I use?
Whipping rope How can I stop my rope from coming unravelled on the ends ?
self bondage If you tie yourself up, you'd better be able to untie yourself.
self bondage2 I want to tie myself up, what now?
suspension What is it? Do I need special equipment, can I just put up a hook?
Suspension rigging How do i do it? What do I need?
How too's & Techniques, and Guides.( How too's & Techniques, guides, advice.)
Anal play A guide to making anal play less daunting and less stressful for all concerned
cbt what's the thrill ? what's the dangers ?
Hair removal Hate hair no excuses now. Here is a way for everyone!
Wax play wax play without burning down the house.
Wax melting temps Burn the wax not the sub how to get it right first time every time.
Mummification How too and what to watch out for
Breath play A starting point.
capnolagnia Smoking fetish ideas for scenes
safe sex practices Safe sex practice
unsafe sex practices Unsafe Femdom practices
Eating Pussy 101 How to get it right every time
depersonalization Depersonalization, long name, easy to do
Sensual massage How to give a great massage.
CBT Cock and ball torture ideas, suggestions and hints.
P spot Milking Locating and Milking the male P spot
tease,Humilate, Want your boy begging for more? Some ideas and suggestions to build on.
Edge play What is edge play, how do I do it?
Electro play The basics, hints, tips, scene ideas
fire play Make fire not burns
Sex Toys and Equipment uses (a selection of "How too's", articles, and reviews)
Anal beads 101 ok, I have anal beads, what now
first anal toy I want to buy my first toy, but what ?
Harness Happiness How to use and find the perfect Harness/strapon.
lube 101 what lube for what occasion?
cockrings 101 do i need a Cock ring, how do they work, should I watch for warnings
benwah balls 101 How do you use these benwah thingies?
Cleaning sex toys Looking after your toys and safety
Gags safety and ideas on gag use.
Clothes pegs/pins A simple guide to uses
Clips clamps how long? what kind? where to use?
silicone toys what materials are better for toys
Disabilities&toys Ideas, hints, tips, resources for disabilities.
Spanking, Whips, Floggers, Impact play(a selection of 'how too's, articles, and reviews)
Floggers How to use a flogger and get it right.
Different strokes Different strokes, for different folks.
A tale to tell Flogger designs and materials
whip breaking Whip care & breaking in a new whip.
Spanking Spanking know how.
Whipping guide A general guide to whip play.
Bull whip safety A general guide.
Melanoma &SM play know the dangers.
Canes How to use a cane the right way
General resources, Articles and Reviews..
Collar meanings Collars mean different things to different people...make sure you know what it means to you!
Buyers guide Buyer beware, a guide to making Adult purchases on line
Resources A good list of resource material (ladies Miss Bonnie has heaps more send an Email)
Basic D/s terms Just what the name implies, the basic terms of Femdom.
Links A collection of Femdom links to other sites and reference materials or sites of interest.
Dictionary of terms Talk like the lifestylers all the terms you need to know.
Our emblem Want others to know your kinky here's how! (works for MissB)
On line Resources You finally want to learn about what you've been fantasizing about for years, Ms160 has the answers.
Published Resources Don't what to read, or where to find the answers, Ms160 has the solution you may be after.
toy box solutions I want a toy box where do I start? Ms160 has a list ;)
fakers spotting fakes and players online
Chivalry or weakness Submissive traits, chivalry or weakness?
Fantasies We all have fantasies.so what is normal?
BDSM A term which describes a number of related patterns of human sexual behavior.
Gorean A short brief page on its origin.
sexual power Women A complete E-book with 20 chapters. In which the reader is invited to take an inventory of herself for the
purpose of gauging how well female domination might suit her.
Aftercare What to do after your scene/play ends ?
10 commandments Dommes keep your subbie happy.
10 commandments subs if you can do this your Lady will be pleased.
Top hints and tricks Need new ideas or just a little help.
Mistress primer Want to be the best ?
switching Don't box me in !!
successful switching can it be done?
Switches&BDSM So whats this switching thing?
fledgling Dommes I think I'm a Domme, how can I find my way?
subspace What is it?
sub space drop Understand what it is.
degrees of sub Food for thought, where do you see yourself
Emergency training Emergencies how will you respond
sub V's slave differences between sub and slave
starting out Domme You're domme so what now ?
starting out sub you're submissive, so what now?
Sexual fetishism the sexual attraction to material and terrestrial objects
Relationship and Dating Ideas, hints,tips,articles for R/T&online
Dating red flags meet someone and want to move it to real time, what to watch out for
Beginning real time Where do I start?Going to your first munch, what to wear, what to do.
Warning signs Is it right I'm treated this way?
D/s Marrage How do I introduce my vanilla wife to D/s
Seeking a ProDom Advice from a ProDomina on how to find your perfect match.
sub husband help So you've just found out your husband is submissive, where do you go from here
Finding a Domme Do you need to find Mrs. Right and not just Miss Rightnow try some of these ideas
fakers spotting fakes and players online
D/s & Children How can I do this with children?
kink and kids What do I tell my children?
Online Cyber How to find an online cyber Domme.
Cam play cam play pros and cons, hints and tips
Sell Yourself How To Write An Attractive Online Dating Profile
Dating site terms a starting point in trying to figure them out
BDSM break ups break ups can become messy, femdom relations are no exceptions
Contracts,Negotiations, Rights
D/s Contracts What are they? and how do they work?
Sample 1 An example of a simple contract.
sample 2 A more complicated example of a contract
Sample 3 An example of a temporary contract.
BDSM Right Know your rights.
Safewords Do you know your safe word ?
SSC v's RACK Safe, sane and consensual V's Risk-Aware Consensual Kink
Limits & negotiations Both Dominants and submissives can express limits. What are you partners ?
Partner check list The list a great place to start to get to know your partner or open up communication channel
Abuse and P.E Abuse and erotic power exchange, know the dangers
Dungeon & Playroom Furniture
A frame Bondage Chair Cages spiders web Bondage wheel Queening stool
Smoother box St Andrews cross Whipping post Pillroy the Rack Sawhorse
Spanking bench Stocks Yokes &Fiddles
Pervertibles & Craft ideas, Building Plans and Resources
Key ring (chain) A kinky easy craft idea to let others know your kinky side.
pervertibles I can't afford toys, what can I do ?
Craft Ideas some times you want something a little more personal to use, what better than a play item you construct
Craft Ideas2 Embarrassed to purchase in a sex shop, no credit card to buy online (save money too) .. perfect for you!
Shrews fiddle Building plans
saw horse Building plans
Canes Building instructions
Rubber cat of 9 How to make a rubber cat of nine tails (NEW APRIL08)
Mistress160's Abode
an online and r/t "smart, funny and very wicked" Mistress' musings on her subs' antics, contemporary kinky culture + all things BDSM, and how to survive
CollarNcuffs.com is pleased to announce the addition of Mistress160 and her resource pages
Mistress160 interests and desires as a real time and online Mistress are diverse and eclectic, pushing the boundaries of BDSM. she is always looking for ways to increase her experience and expertise, establishing dialogue and exchanging knowledge with a wide range of BDSM and kinky communities, from Dom/mes to the wives / partners of submissives who desire to achieve greater understanding of D/s. she is also interested in discovering new artwork inspired by kink and BDSM. Mistress160 currently manages a small real time and online sub (both male and female) and mentor stable,
Mistress160 also act as administrator / moderator on sites such as www.fetishlore.com, FemSubStartingPlace (an education / support group for female subs), the Forced Feminization and Kinky Style groups on MyDungeonSpace, and a private Mistress forum.
If you wish to contact Mistress160, messages can be left via our Forum on site
At present this section is a work in progress and by no means covers all the topics of BDSM / femdom. Would YOU like to help write topics ? .This is a community site and without YOUR help WE will fail.. Give it go !! you never know maybe you have some ideas already...some topics we would love to see listed here are things such as .How to tell your SO..scene ideas..how to be the perfect bottom..Leathercare..toy making instructions..how to Femme your sub.. protocols....age play...cuckolding....Fetishism..switch advice..articles on gender issues...the list is endless
HELP us make this site a success.. and make this site yours
Would you like to write for collarncuffs
and help us help others..
click here
Cross-dressing
We thought this was section that really needed to be added in-depth and its not a topic that we proclaim to know allot about so we have included this webring of links(below).. and would like to add that transgender are most welcome on this site as is their input.
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Mainpage | Resources | Reading corner | MissB | Forum | chatrooms | Contact | Ecards | Gallery | guestbook | links | Giftwares | Toy store | BookStore
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an online and r/t "smart, funny and very wicked" Mistress' musings on her subs' antics, contemporary kinky culture + all things BDSM, and how to survive
CollarNcuffs.com is pleased to announce the addition of Mistress160 and her resource pages
Mistress160 interests and desires as a real time and online Mistress are diverse and eclectic, pushing the boundaries of BDSM. she is always looking for ways to increase her experience and expertise, establishing dialogue and exchanging knowledge with a wide range of BDSM and kinky communities, from Dom/mes to the wives / partners of submissives who desire to achieve greater understanding of D/s. she is also interested in discovering new artwork inspired by kink and BDSM. Mistress160 currently manages a small real time and online sub (both male and female) and mentor stable,
Mistress160 also act as administrator / moderator on sites such as www.fetishlore.com, FemSubStartingPlace (an education / support group for female subs), the Forced Feminization and Kinky Style groups on MyDungeonSpace, and a private Mistress forum.
If you wish to contact Mistress160, messages can be left via our Forum on site
At present this section is a work in progress and by no means covers all the topics of BDSM / femdom. Would YOU like to help write topics ? .This is a community site and without YOUR help WE will fail.. Give it go !! you never know maybe you have some ideas already...some topics we would love to see listed here are things such as .How to tell your SO..scene ideas..how to be the perfect bottom..Leathercare..toy making instructions..how to Femme your sub.. protocols....age play...cuckolding....Fetishism..switch advice..articles on gender issues...the list is endless
HELP us make this site a success.. and make this site yours
Would you like to write for collarncuffs
and help us help others..
click here
Cross-dressing
We thought this was section that really needed to be added in-depth and its not a topic that we proclaim to know allot about so we have included this webring of links(below).. and would like to add that transgender are most welcome on this site as is their input.
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